"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Face wise you aren't a bad looking guy at all. Good looking face, though if I were to be honest and I saw you walking down the street? I would think to myself there is a chance you are gay. You just kinda have that "look" to me. Plus, you are Asian, which at least in the US puts you at a slight disadvantage, even with other Asian girls, let alone white ones.

Hard to tell on body, looks like you may be kinda short? Height and weight?
 
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my ideal weight is 130-140 and i'm 5'6. So my look is not a disadvantage right?
 
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thanks for your reply. do you think i can end up with a cute girl? my previous and only gf was not very cute and I don't want to put up with that again. They don't need to be super hot but they do need to be attractive.
 
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ImWithTheDJ said:
thanks for your reply. do you think i can end up with a cute girl? my previous and only gf was not very cute and I don't want to put up with that again. They don't need to be super hot but they do need to be attractive.
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Well if you are 5"6" then you for sure need to hit the weights and hit them hard. You are going to have to develop a strong, lean body to compensate for your lack of height.

But as far as your face? Yes like I said you have a good looking face, but it gives off a gay vibe to me. But, some girls like that. I would think you should be able to get a cute Asian girl no problem. A white girl? Will probably be a little harder to pull off. They don't usually go for the smaller Asian dudes. I live in the LA area and I never see it. See a ton of Asian girls with white guys though. And of course with other Asian guys as well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ImWithTheDJ said:
This was my body a few years ago..

http://a6.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/photos-ak-ash1/v195/79/20/6012407/n6012407_37069232_8920.jpg

right now i'm f*cken fat! but i'm working on regaining my old self.
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Hard to believe you could be fat, but I'll take your word for it haha. But yeah, you scream GAY to me. I know your not, but that is something you may want to work on. For sure by getting more bulk by heavy lifting, but also via your haircut, facial hair, etc. But I don't think you are a lost cause by any means.
 
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Lol, i figure i'm a good looking guy but just had to make sure that i'm not the only person who think so.
 
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yah, im giving myself half a yeaer time frame to get my **** together because right now i'm unemployed and fat so im a little bit insecure.
 
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