Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
In other words: She tells you (...) and her girlfriend tells you (...)Ok here is the reasons that i believe she is who she says she is
1. she tells me she is constantly bored
2. her friend bet my roommate 20 dollars that we wouldn't have sex because "thats not who she is"
3. She is constantly busy with work and school.
4. I have yet to catch her lying to me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good Luck!But if shes a wh0re i dont care. Anyway i want to thank you guys for the advice.
Lol, that's what her bf keeps telling himself, I'm sure...I Love Life said:i know she is not a slut.
As if she's actually gone to come out and say "Oh by the way, you're not the first guy I've sleeped with outside of the relationship with my boyfriend."I Love Life said:Im not gonna say i know for 100% that i was her first outside of her bf but the way she talks and the way her friends talk im about 99% its true. so should i take this as IOI or that she was just using me to figure things out?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Actually, I think it would be a good, fair idea.soontobesuave said:but telling her boyfriend. thats a c*nt's trick.
wayword said:Actually, I think it would be a good, fair idea.
It would be doing her bf a favor to let him know his girl is a ho...and also help teach her a good lesson. Otherwise, he's only enabling all the cheating sluts in this country...
Just save a text message from her or have some other evidence proving you had carnal knowledge.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are you serious man? Have you ever head of a "crime of passion?"I Love Life said:Ok guys thanks for the reality checks. Im gonna give her until the end of the weekend to call me and if she doesn't, sh!t is gonna hit the fan. Im gonna call her out on whether shes been lying to me and if i get the slightest hint that shes using me as a tool im going to tell her boyfriend that i slept with her. i'll keep you guys updated if you want.
CitizenOfTheWorld84 said:In France we have a saying, I will translate it to English as best I can.
'Bed with a dog and you are not better than a dog'
It is said more eloquently in France but it has the same meaning.
The only thing i have changed about myself is that i've taken up a higher value of identity around her. Im still the same person she met a year ago. But yeah i think you're right about there being a lesson to be learned. I really dont want to mess up her life but i've been nothing but honest with her from the get go and she made me percieve an image of herself that was total bullsh!t. Which was probably my fault or the fact that i lack experience with sluts. Anyway your right it probably was a mistake hooking up with this girl, but im still naive and lack experience and its nothing i can take back.squirrels said:This is a prime example of what happens when you "use the DJ techniques" that are incongruent with your style...you get yourself into more of a mess than you can handle.
Now we have a chump who's in love with a wh0re who is still worrying about her ex-boyfriend, and all he can think about is how he can live happily ever after with her and how to CHANGE HIMSELF to meet HER expectations.
It's sickening...only because a lot of us have been there before.
I Love Life, watch what happens when you put on a pair of shoes that's too big for you. Let it be a lesson to you. Then grow bigger feet.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.