Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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backseatjuan

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:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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El Payaso

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backseatjuan said:
:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
 

Sofomore

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You need to write her a long email about your feelings. If you really want her back just send flowers and chocolates.
 

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^^^ Agreed.

It's simple really - what normally gets rid of them ? AFC behaviour.

OP, you know what to do.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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adam225

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Seriously... the problem is you've done EVERYTHING that would keep her IL high lol - the more you push them away the more they'll case you down.

I dunno man, there's not much more you can do than deleting her number and trying your best to avoid her. The only other option is the AFC route. :crackup:
 

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It's pretty sad that you can't figure out how dump a chick.

How about?

"I'm dumping your ass for good and don't ever call me again!"

Try not to turn her on or she'll come running back :crackup:
 

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backseatjuan said:
The chick is AFC, maybe that has something to do with her clinginess.
The two of you sound like a good match. Why do you want to dump her?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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El Payaso said:
I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
I told you I was retiring...
 

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Breaking up is easy to do.

Tell her it's over. Delete her. Block her. Turn your betatude up to eleven.

It really is that simple.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

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yes f-u and go f ur self seems to work really nice, thanks. tho I feel faking used after this, it is as if I had to walk her toward getting over me and getting it on with someone else, as if she wouldn't do it until I told her to do it. this feels so faking gay
 

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I thought breaking up was easy? Just change your facebook status. *shrugs*

Epi
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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