Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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backseatjuan said:
:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
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I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
 
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You need to write her a long email about your feelings. If you really want her back just send flowers and chocolates.
 
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^^^ Agreed.

It's simple really - what normally gets rid of them ? AFC behaviour.

OP, you know what to do.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Seriously... the problem is you've done EVERYTHING that would keep her IL high lol - the more you push them away the more they'll case you down.

I dunno man, there's not much more you can do than deleting her number and trying your best to avoid her. The only other option is the AFC route. :crackup:
 
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It's pretty sad that you can't figure out how dump a chick.

How about?

"I'm dumping your ass for good and don't ever call me again!"

Try not to turn her on or she'll come running back :crackup:
 
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backseatjuan said:
The chick is AFC, maybe that has something to do with her clinginess.
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The two of you sound like a good match. Why do you want to dump her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Payaso said:
I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
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I told you I was retiring...
 
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Breaking up is easy to do.

Tell her it's over. Delete her. Block her. Turn your betatude up to eleven.

It really is that simple.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 
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yes f-u and go f ur self seems to work really nice, thanks. tho I feel faking used after this, it is as if I had to walk her toward getting over me and getting it on with someone else, as if she wouldn't do it until I told her to do it. this feels so faking gay
 
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I thought breaking up was easy? Just change your facebook status. *shrugs*

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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