"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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backseatjuan said:
:cuss: After a 2 year old LTR and a little time off from her, I realized no fing way I can be with that girl. She is way too jelousy, she can't hold drink and does like to drink, she smokes, her family is just horrible, and the baby she said was mine DNA test showed that it wasn't mine. So I went NC at first, then I created an online dating profile just so that she sees it, then I explicitly wrote to her and told her plain and simple, I don't want to be with her. She's still calling me, writing me text messages, I just don't pick up or answer.

How to dump a girl so it is 100% prove and she don't ever contact me again?
I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
 

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You need to write her a long email about your feelings. If you really want her back just send flowers and chocolates.
 

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^^^ Agreed.

It's simple really - what normally gets rid of them ? AFC behaviour.

OP, you know what to do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Seriously... the problem is you've done EVERYTHING that would keep her IL high lol - the more you push them away the more they'll case you down.

I dunno man, there's not much more you can do than deleting her number and trying your best to avoid her. The only other option is the AFC route. :crackup:
 

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It's pretty sad that you can't figure out how dump a chick.

How about?

"I'm dumping your ass for good and don't ever call me again!"

Try not to turn her on or she'll come running back :crackup:
 

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backseatjuan said:
The chick is AFC, maybe that has something to do with her clinginess.
The two of you sound like a good match. Why do you want to dump her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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El Payaso said:
I know a guy that can make people disappear. For the right price of course...
I told you I was retiring...
 

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Breaking up is easy to do.

Tell her it's over. Delete her. Block her. Turn your betatude up to eleven.

It really is that simple.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

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yes f-u and go f ur self seems to work really nice, thanks. tho I feel faking used after this, it is as if I had to walk her toward getting over me and getting it on with someone else, as if she wouldn't do it until I told her to do it. this feels so faking gay
 

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I thought breaking up was easy? Just change your facebook status. *shrugs*

Epi
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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