"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Help..hitting the gym and loosing weight instead of bulking up
- Thread starter icehot
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mahon83050
Banned
Same boat as you pal...been lifting hard for 8 weeks. When I weighed myself the other day I was 167...a pound lighter than when I started. And yes, I do look more cut and defined just like YOU say. The solution: Buy some protein bars ( I already have), eat some carbs before you lift (extra energy) and stuff yer face, but stay away from fried foods (chicken Mcnuggets, Big Macs, KFC, etc, soda and sweets. NO CARDIO!!
With regards to my workout, i've been following Diesel's guide. With NO cardio.
I guess, i'm just not eating enough. And i'll definately try the pre/post workout protien bar.
I've been drinking the weight gainers protein shake (GNC's pro performance - Elite Mega Mass) and I figured that should be just as good as protein bars.
iceH
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I can gain weight, I can get to about 165+ lbs, but then a few days later I'm back to 155lbs. WTF...
I eat at least 3200 calories per day, very little fried foods or sweets. 250g+ protein per day. No weight gain.
i'm starting to wonder if there is a weight "wall" that we hard gainers hit? we can get majorly defined and cut but our bodies just won't let us get any heavier.
I figure is there's a thing such as a "fat" gene that makes it hard for obese people to loose weight. Maybe the same type of thing exists for us -- only in reverse.
-iceH
yea u can say that...
but once u cross that wall it's not hard...
u know i used to be thin but muscular n i thought i can eat anythign n not get fat but hey i hit the wall n got big
didn't realise i was thin due to my rigourous Martial art training which was 6 hrs + per day.
wat i needed to do??
just sit back for 6 months n keep eating
WhoAmI
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Tiggis
Don Juan
It may not be how hard your working but how your working..