"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's up guys. I got a question here. There's a girl that I tried to get a date with for a while but was unsuccessful. It's not going anywhere based on "The System". But I still think this girl is really cool and my friend whos a pimp with the ladies wants her number from me. Should I give it to him?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ManOMan

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if your friend was a pimp with the ladies, tell him to ask her himself.
 

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^ Yeah ^
 

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Nothing is creepier to a girl than a random call from someone saying "hey, my friend gave me your number". FYI.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thank you very much guys. You cleared things up.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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Hold your horses there trigger.

Yes, he should be able to get his own. I also realise that you said you were unsuccessful before. My question is why haven't you moved on her or moved on entirely???

Sounds like you're still crushing her, so don't let your friend beat you to the draw. If you have given up, let her go. If you haven't given up, go for her full-force. This half-@$$ stuff ain't flying...

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

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What do you mean go for her full force? I can't get her out on a date. Do I keep asking over and over again and getting the "I'm busy" treatment? I'm not sure how to raise her interest level in me.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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Originally posted by Nannu
What do you mean go for her full force? I can't get her out on a date. Do I keep asking over and over again and getting the "I'm busy" treatment? I'm not sure how to raise her interest level in me.
Okay, I have ten minutes so I'll make this quick...

If your efforts have failed you need to sit back and take an objective look at what you've been doing that hasn't worked. You've been trying aparrently, but sporadic, hav@$$, and/or misguided efforts are never going to get you anywhere. Faint heart never won fair lady. (which is why I say go after her full force)

It sounds like you're looking at her from the outside looking in. If her IL isn't there, either you're doing something incorrectly, or you're not even romantically postioning yourself close enough to her to register as a blip on her loveRadar.

So tell you what. Kick back. Relax. Take a look at what you've been doing and you tell me what you have and haven't been doing right?

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by [T]he ishop
Nothing is creepier to a girl than a random call from someone saying "hey, my friend gave me your number". FYI.

Except if she has already met you and find you attractive.
 
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