"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's up guys. I got a question here. There's a girl that I tried to get a date with for a while but was unsuccessful. It's not going anywhere based on "The System". But I still think this girl is really cool and my friend whos a pimp with the ladies wants her number from me. Should I give it to him?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ManOMan

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if your friend was a pimp with the ladies, tell him to ask her himself.
 

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^ Yeah ^
 

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Nothing is creepier to a girl than a random call from someone saying "hey, my friend gave me your number". FYI.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Thank you very much guys. You cleared things up.
 

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Hold your horses there trigger.

Yes, he should be able to get his own. I also realise that you said you were unsuccessful before. My question is why haven't you moved on her or moved on entirely???

Sounds like you're still crushing her, so don't let your friend beat you to the draw. If you have given up, let her go. If you haven't given up, go for her full-force. This half-@$$ stuff ain't flying...

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

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What do you mean go for her full force? I can't get her out on a date. Do I keep asking over and over again and getting the "I'm busy" treatment? I'm not sure how to raise her interest level in me.
 

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Originally posted by Nannu
What do you mean go for her full force? I can't get her out on a date. Do I keep asking over and over again and getting the "I'm busy" treatment? I'm not sure how to raise her interest level in me.
Okay, I have ten minutes so I'll make this quick...

If your efforts have failed you need to sit back and take an objective look at what you've been doing that hasn't worked. You've been trying aparrently, but sporadic, hav@$$, and/or misguided efforts are never going to get you anywhere. Faint heart never won fair lady. (which is why I say go after her full force)

It sounds like you're looking at her from the outside looking in. If her IL isn't there, either you're doing something incorrectly, or you're not even romantically postioning yourself close enough to her to register as a blip on her loveRadar.

So tell you what. Kick back. Relax. Take a look at what you've been doing and you tell me what you have and haven't been doing right?

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by [T]he ishop
Nothing is creepier to a girl than a random call from someone saying "hey, my friend gave me your number". FYI.

Except if she has already met you and find you attractive.
 
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