"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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HELP: 2 hours to decide

the_govner

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So there's this girl... She's based in the Philippines (where i'm at as well) and studies in USC. I met her on a tennis court around aug. 06' and we clicked right away but I didn't try nothing as she was leaving at the time.

We met again 6 months later when she came home for Xmas, we met up a couple times (I didn't know jack about all this seduction stuff and I hardly ever tried anything even hand holding which made these things seem like non-dates in the end). Nonetheless, we really clicked and I decided a month later that I wanted to go to LA and see her. So I did.

I spoke to her friends (they were sure she 'digged' me and encouraged me to come) to arrange a surprise and I met up with her last Feb 07 and we hung out for a good 3 days until I told her how I felt (I know now that's not the way to go) and got shot down. Her reason's were rational and obvious, she's there i'm here she's still starting college and blah blah blah...

So I made my way back to the Philippines and didn't really keep in touch. She was back in August she initiated tennis and attended my bday bash but nothing there really.

Now she's back for the Christmas break and her birthday party is tonight and she gave me a respectful invite, Should I attend?

She's always treated me with respect and never kept distance even post shooting me down which is why I don't feel like NEXTing.

At least I've sort of gotten really good at all this seduction stuff in the past year with other women, but I just like this one for some reason. I'm sure you can all relate.

Thanks!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like one-itis. Go to the party and look out for other women! If you chase her you're only wasting your time. Be polite and concentrate on other girls and it'll at least get her thinking
 

zack77766

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youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.
 

the_govner

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zack77766 said:
youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.

Ad's machine? what's that?
 

Prodigy746

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you should go to the party and try to get with another girl, perhaps one of her friends. If she sees you with other girls than she will get jelous ...trust me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you have something better to do than go to a party which will be full of chicks? You should go to the party and pick up one of her hot friends.

You should forget about hooking up with her though, chicks won't blank you because you like them (it's flattering and boosts their ego) - but don't misread it as a sign you still have a chance.
 

the_govner

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Great advice.

Heavily flirted with a lot of girls in the party, main target was just hi and bye.

She messaged me today saying it was nice seeing me.
 
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