"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HELP: 2 hours to decide

the_govner

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So there's this girl... She's based in the Philippines (where i'm at as well) and studies in USC. I met her on a tennis court around aug. 06' and we clicked right away but I didn't try nothing as she was leaving at the time.

We met again 6 months later when she came home for Xmas, we met up a couple times (I didn't know jack about all this seduction stuff and I hardly ever tried anything even hand holding which made these things seem like non-dates in the end). Nonetheless, we really clicked and I decided a month later that I wanted to go to LA and see her. So I did.

I spoke to her friends (they were sure she 'digged' me and encouraged me to come) to arrange a surprise and I met up with her last Feb 07 and we hung out for a good 3 days until I told her how I felt (I know now that's not the way to go) and got shot down. Her reason's were rational and obvious, she's there i'm here she's still starting college and blah blah blah...

So I made my way back to the Philippines and didn't really keep in touch. She was back in August she initiated tennis and attended my bday bash but nothing there really.

Now she's back for the Christmas break and her birthday party is tonight and she gave me a respectful invite, Should I attend?

She's always treated me with respect and never kept distance even post shooting me down which is why I don't feel like NEXTing.

At least I've sort of gotten really good at all this seduction stuff in the past year with other women, but I just like this one for some reason. I'm sure you can all relate.

Thanks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like one-itis. Go to the party and look out for other women! If you chase her you're only wasting your time. Be polite and concentrate on other girls and it'll at least get her thinking
 

zack77766

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youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.
 

the_govner

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zack77766 said:
youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.

Ad's machine? what's that?
 

Prodigy746

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you should go to the party and try to get with another girl, perhaps one of her friends. If she sees you with other girls than she will get jelous ...trust me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JJMcLure

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Do you have something better to do than go to a party which will be full of chicks? You should go to the party and pick up one of her hot friends.

You should forget about hooking up with her though, chicks won't blank you because you like them (it's flattering and boosts their ego) - but don't misread it as a sign you still have a chance.
 

the_govner

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Great advice.

Heavily flirted with a lot of girls in the party, main target was just hi and bye.

She messaged me today saying it was nice seeing me.
 
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