"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HELP: 2 hours to decide

the_govner

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So there's this girl... She's based in the Philippines (where i'm at as well) and studies in USC. I met her on a tennis court around aug. 06' and we clicked right away but I didn't try nothing as she was leaving at the time.

We met again 6 months later when she came home for Xmas, we met up a couple times (I didn't know jack about all this seduction stuff and I hardly ever tried anything even hand holding which made these things seem like non-dates in the end). Nonetheless, we really clicked and I decided a month later that I wanted to go to LA and see her. So I did.

I spoke to her friends (they were sure she 'digged' me and encouraged me to come) to arrange a surprise and I met up with her last Feb 07 and we hung out for a good 3 days until I told her how I felt (I know now that's not the way to go) and got shot down. Her reason's were rational and obvious, she's there i'm here she's still starting college and blah blah blah...

So I made my way back to the Philippines and didn't really keep in touch. She was back in August she initiated tennis and attended my bday bash but nothing there really.

Now she's back for the Christmas break and her birthday party is tonight and she gave me a respectful invite, Should I attend?

She's always treated me with respect and never kept distance even post shooting me down which is why I don't feel like NEXTing.

At least I've sort of gotten really good at all this seduction stuff in the past year with other women, but I just like this one for some reason. I'm sure you can all relate.

Thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like one-itis. Go to the party and look out for other women! If you chase her you're only wasting your time. Be polite and concentrate on other girls and it'll at least get her thinking
 

zack77766

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youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.
 

the_govner

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zack77766 said:
youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.

Ad's machine? what's that?
 

Prodigy746

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you should go to the party and try to get with another girl, perhaps one of her friends. If she sees you with other girls than she will get jelous ...trust me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JJMcLure

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Do you have something better to do than go to a party which will be full of chicks? You should go to the party and pick up one of her hot friends.

You should forget about hooking up with her though, chicks won't blank you because you like them (it's flattering and boosts their ego) - but don't misread it as a sign you still have a chance.
 

the_govner

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Great advice.

Heavily flirted with a lot of girls in the party, main target was just hi and bye.

She messaged me today saying it was nice seeing me.
 
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