"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HELP: 2 hours to decide

the_govner

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So there's this girl... She's based in the Philippines (where i'm at as well) and studies in USC. I met her on a tennis court around aug. 06' and we clicked right away but I didn't try nothing as she was leaving at the time.

We met again 6 months later when she came home for Xmas, we met up a couple times (I didn't know jack about all this seduction stuff and I hardly ever tried anything even hand holding which made these things seem like non-dates in the end). Nonetheless, we really clicked and I decided a month later that I wanted to go to LA and see her. So I did.

I spoke to her friends (they were sure she 'digged' me and encouraged me to come) to arrange a surprise and I met up with her last Feb 07 and we hung out for a good 3 days until I told her how I felt (I know now that's not the way to go) and got shot down. Her reason's were rational and obvious, she's there i'm here she's still starting college and blah blah blah...

So I made my way back to the Philippines and didn't really keep in touch. She was back in August she initiated tennis and attended my bday bash but nothing there really.

Now she's back for the Christmas break and her birthday party is tonight and she gave me a respectful invite, Should I attend?

She's always treated me with respect and never kept distance even post shooting me down which is why I don't feel like NEXTing.

At least I've sort of gotten really good at all this seduction stuff in the past year with other women, but I just like this one for some reason. I'm sure you can all relate.

Thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sounds like one-itis. Go to the party and look out for other women! If you chase her you're only wasting your time. Be polite and concentrate on other girls and it'll at least get her thinking
 

zack77766

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youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.
 

the_govner

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zack77766 said:
youre biggest mistake was telling how you feel. its good you recognize your mistake. look into ad's machine, this will teach you alot.

Ad's machine? what's that?
 

Prodigy746

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you should go to the party and try to get with another girl, perhaps one of her friends. If she sees you with other girls than she will get jelous ...trust me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JJMcLure

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Do you have something better to do than go to a party which will be full of chicks? You should go to the party and pick up one of her hot friends.

You should forget about hooking up with her though, chicks won't blank you because you like them (it's flattering and boosts their ego) - but don't misread it as a sign you still have a chance.
 

the_govner

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Great advice.

Heavily flirted with a lot of girls in the party, main target was just hi and bye.

She messaged me today saying it was nice seeing me.
 
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