"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SilverSonnet said:
Hey, I'm the youngest fellow here, being 14:D Welcome, try not to cause as much hassle as the previous LS invaders did. And you'll be fine. I'm one of the guys that enjoys having some female perspective, as long as women try not to force that perspective onto me, I'm cool:cool:
So, welcome and hop you enjoy the reading.

Lil' Ben ;)

Thanks for the welcome Ben. Yes, that "not shoving down your view down my throat" thing works both ways.

And I'm sure I'll enjoy it here.
 

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SilverSonnet said:
Hey, I'm the youngest fellow here, being 14:D Welcome, try not to cause as much hassle as the previous LS invaders did. And you'll be fine. I'm one of the guys that enjoys having some female perspective, as long as women try not to force that perspective onto me, I'm cool:cool:
So, welcome and hop you enjoy the reading.

Lil' Ben ;)
I read your post in one of Lishy's threads - nicely said, bro!
 

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Purple-Haze said:
TS, thanks a lot! I now get the alerts.
No problemo, sister!

That's what they call their members, right? I'm not going overboard, am I?

:D
 

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Wolf said:
Yer but like it's been said before, SS is kind of like a boys treehouse with a "NO GIRLS!" sign outside! Lol :D

I think if you start posting stuff like "Shower your woman with prezzies!!!" (not saying you would) in the Tips section or whatever then there will be all manner of chaos and POSSIBLY world war 3.

Same as if one of us went to LS and posted something like "BEAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND SENSELESS MWAHAHAHA" (not that anyone here feels that way towards women, I don't think).

Except I DO like to think that our mods aren't Nazis lol, although some would disagree :D.
Well if I think a gift would help, I'd suggest it as a tip... But I am not going to bombard this place with pink fuzzy wuzzy talk and go on about my menstrual cycle. So you have not need to worry.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Showering women with gifts are no biggie. It actually helps but hey, to each his own.

Kind of like the blue background though.
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
The real gift thing is this..you give women a gift when she's been good/nice/ to you and has done something worthy of a reward. Most women see gift-giving as trying to buy their love. Dont fall for it ;)
And yes, Purple. I will not force ANY of my views on you, as I DO respect women and their views, and it's nice to take a step back and see what other people think. But i will hold my own morals and values, and nothing will change that, so anyone gonna try, dont bother:cool:
 

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Well people, it's been nice so far.

Going to hit the sack for a few hours and hopefully when I have the time, will check out more threads!
 

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The real gift thing is this..you give women a gift when she's been good/nice/ to you and has done something worthy of a reward. Most women see gift-giving as trying to buy their love. Dont fall for it ;)
And yes, Purple. I will not force ANY of my views on you, as I DO respect women and their views, and it's nice to take a step back and see what other people think. But i will hold my own morals and values, and nothing will change that, so anyone gonna try, dont bother:cool:
Night HS!

I won't bother trying to change your views. Just don't be so stubborn in your convictions. It's good to listen (which you say you're open to doing...).

And I agree, gift giving shouldn't be done because of some expectation on part of the receiver. Men and women should give gifts because they want to (to show the other they are loved or whatever). It should never be out of a sense of obligation.
 

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Wolf said:
Also, you LoveShackers are really active lol! This is maybe the most active thread EVER created on SoSuave, 3 pages of posts in like a day or whenever this was started, is unheard of.
Well I'm a total night owl. I post to keep myself from dying of boredom.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SilverSonnet said:
Well, FINALLY! A woman LS poster, who genuinely decent and isn't a total troll. From me, your MOST welcome here ;)
And I'm open to change, just not people FORCING it on me.
I'm not much different than many of the female friends I've made at LS. I hope you'll eventually venture over there again and read some of the stuff that people post about.

But thanks for the welcome. I'll post here whenever I have man issues. It'd be nice to hear a different perspective.
 

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Burrito Supreme said:
Still awake I see. You are crazy.:crazy:
I must be, huh?

I'm having fun reading some of the threads on here. I even watched a video on PUAs in the UK.

This has been a very eye-opening experience.
 

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Wolf said:
heh that should be fun, a post of "my bf said he hates me what should I do," will get you many "NEXT!!!!!" calls in the post along with, "DON'T PUT HIM ON A PEDESTAL! BE THE ALPHA MALE... I MEAN WOMAN" etc etc.
Actually, I'm learning how to be an alpha. I'm sure this site will be instrumental in my education.

Plus, I'm interested to know how some alphas think.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Purple-Haze said:
I must be, huh?

I'm having fun reading some of the threads on here. I even watched a video on PUAs in the UK.

This has been a very eye-opening experience.
You are indeed in a purple-haze.;)
 

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Burrito Supreme said:
You indeed in a purple-haze.;)
Hey, brother. Don't knock it till you try it.

Plus, I need all the ammo I can get...you know, for when I deal with "stuff."

The guys on here seem pretty decent thus far. I was a little scurred at first...thinking they'd knock me down a few. Hopefully I haven't spoken too soon.

And what are YOU doing up so late? Or early...? I dunno what I'm saying. Where is my midget person when I need him.
 

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Purple-Haze said:
Hey, brother. Don't knock it till you try it.

Plus, I need all the ammo I can get...you know, for when I deal with "stuff."

The guys on here seem pretty decent thus far. I was a little scurred at first...thinking they'd knock me down a few. Hopefully I haven't spoken too soon.

And what are YOU doing up so late? Or early...? I dunno what I'm saying. Where is my midget person when I need him.
I've tried the red haze, the blue haze, and many more in my day. The hazes were fun while they lasted.

I'm two hours ahead of you.

Its opening day today for baseball and yours truly has tickets. The game is an early game, so there is no time for sleep now.
 

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I've tried the red haze, the blue haze, and many more in my day. The hazes were fun while they lasted.

I'm two hours ahead of you.

Its opening day today for baseball and yours truly has tickets. The game is an early game, so there is no time for sleep now.
Alright, well come online to le talk place if you're going to be kicking around.

Ciao!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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