Purple-Haze
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- Mar 31, 2008
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TS, thanks a lot! I now get the alerts.TruthSeeker said:It's in the option menu
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TS, thanks a lot! I now get the alerts.TruthSeeker said:It's in the option menu
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SilverSonnet said:Hey, I'm the youngest fellow here, being 14Welcome, try not to cause as much hassle as the previous LS invaders did. And you'll be fine. I'm one of the guys that enjoys having some female perspective, as long as women try not to force that perspective onto me, I'm cool
So, welcome and hop you enjoy the reading.
Lil' Ben![]()
I read your post in one of Lishy's threads - nicely said, bro!SilverSonnet said:Hey, I'm the youngest fellow here, being 14Welcome, try not to cause as much hassle as the previous LS invaders did. And you'll be fine. I'm one of the guys that enjoys having some female perspective, as long as women try not to force that perspective onto me, I'm cool
So, welcome and hop you enjoy the reading.
Lil' Ben![]()
No problemo, sister!Purple-Haze said:TS, thanks a lot! I now get the alerts.
Well if I think a gift would help, I'd suggest it as a tip... But I am not going to bombard this place with pink fuzzy wuzzy talk and go on about my menstrual cycle. So you have not need to worry.Wolf said:Yer but like it's been said before, SS is kind of like a boys treehouse with a "NO GIRLS!" sign outside! Lol
I think if you start posting stuff like "Shower your woman with prezzies!!!" (not saying you would) in the Tips section or whatever then there will be all manner of chaos and POSSIBLY world war 3.
Same as if one of us went to LS and posted something like "BEAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND SENSELESS MWAHAHAHA" (not that anyone here feels that way towards women, I don't think).
Except I DO like to think that our mods aren't Nazis lol, although some would disagree.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Night HS!SilverSonnet said:The real gift thing is this..you give women a gift when she's been good/nice/ to you and has done something worthy of a reward. Most women see gift-giving as trying to buy their love. Dont fall for it
And yes, Purple. I will not force ANY of my views on you, as I DO respect women and their views, and it's nice to take a step back and see what other people think. But i will hold my own morals and values, and nothing will change that, so anyone gonna try, dont bother![]()
Well I'm a total night owl. I post to keep myself from dying of boredom.Wolf said:Also, you LoveShackers are really active lol! This is maybe the most active thread EVER created on SoSuave, 3 pages of posts in like a day or whenever this was started, is unheard of.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm not much different than many of the female friends I've made at LS. I hope you'll eventually venture over there again and read some of the stuff that people post about.SilverSonnet said:Well, FINALLY! A woman LS poster, who genuinely decent and isn't a total troll. From me, your MOST welcome here
And I'm open to change, just not people FORCING it on me.
I must be, huh?Burrito Supreme said:Still awake I see. You are crazy.:crazy:
Actually, I'm learning how to be an alpha. I'm sure this site will be instrumental in my education.Wolf said:heh that should be fun, a post of "my bf said he hates me what should I do," will get you many "NEXT!!!!!" calls in the post along with, "DON'T PUT HIM ON A PEDESTAL! BE THE ALPHA MALE... I MEAN WOMAN" etc etc.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You are indeed in a purple-haze.Purple-Haze said:I must be, huh?
I'm having fun reading some of the threads on here. I even watched a video on PUAs in the UK.
This has been a very eye-opening experience.
Hey, brother. Don't knock it till you try it.Burrito Supreme said:You indeed in a purple-haze.![]()
I've tried the red haze, the blue haze, and many more in my day. The hazes were fun while they lasted.Purple-Haze said:Hey, brother. Don't knock it till you try it.
Plus, I need all the ammo I can get...you know, for when I deal with "stuff."
The guys on here seem pretty decent thus far. I was a little scurred at first...thinking they'd knock me down a few. Hopefully I haven't spoken too soon.
And what are YOU doing up so late? Or early...? I dunno what I'm saying. Where is my midget person when I need him.
Alright, well come online to le talk place if you're going to be kicking around.Burrito Supreme said:I've tried the red haze, the blue haze, and many more in my day. The hazes were fun while they lasted.
I'm two hours ahead of you.
Its opening day today for baseball and yours truly has tickets. The game is an early game, so there is no time for sleep now.
More than likely I'll be kicking around later on.Purple-Haze said:Alright, well come online to le talk place if you're going to be kicking around.
Ciao!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.