Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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HB9..How to start a relationship?

gimmeyofonenumba

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alright in the past girls asked me to be exclusive, or they dropped so many hints it was very easy. Long story short..we've been dating for a few mos. awesome sex numerous times. We hangout like twice a month because she's in the city I used to live in, she always calls or texts. She tells me she isnt good at doing anything love/relationship related, and Im quite sure she's expecting me to bring up the relationship thing...just how do i do it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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badboyjmm

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
She tells me she isnt good at doing anything love/relationship related, and Im quite sure she's expecting me to bring up the relationship thing...just how do i do it?
For me, that could be a way of telling you that she wants to be exclusive (in a very strange way) or maybe she's just wanna keep it casual.

Anyways, it's better if the girl initiate that kind of talk. So just keep the good stuff going and let her come forward with the bf/gf talk.
 

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Tell her she doesnt need to be insecure you like her you want to be with her thats not so hard.
 

LoneWolf

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why would you want a relationship with a hottie? you see it everywhere man. they never last. id rather settle for an average like 6/7. at least then you know guys aren't trying to hit on her and checking her out every corner you walk. thats just me.. feels like a hassle to keep a hot girl around. you know how many guys want to tap that? its like a bunch of lions fighting over a piece of meat. shes gonna have guys chatting her up 24/7. big competition :p
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
we've been dating for a few mos. awesome sex numerous times. We hangout like twice a month
So you've been out with her like four times?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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let the girl bring up the relationship thing; Social Leper is exactly right.
 

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we've been on 5+ dates and weekend pow wows. No pics, your just gonna have to take my word.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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and lone wolf...man I dont know where to begin with your post. Yes, you obviously have to be secure about things. But I'll take a hb9, that could be all mine. rather then settle with a hb5 or 6 any day
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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LoneWolf said:
why would you want a relationship with a hottie? you see it everywhere man. they never last. id rather settle for an average like 6/7. at least then you know guys aren't trying to hit on her and checking her out every corner you walk. thats just me.. feels like a hassle to keep a hot girl around. you know how many guys want to tap that? its like a bunch of lions fighting over a piece of meat. shes gonna have guys chatting her up 24/7. big competition :p
Ew.

Would you settle for an average job too? With an average salary? Because, you know, a better job will have more people competing for it, and thus more stress to keep the job.

I don't know how you come to this site, of all places, preaching the values of "settling". People come here because they want to be more than an average dude who's settling for the average girl.

Go marry your 6, get a job as a plumber, and pop out some unambitious average-looking kids.
 

Mantis Toboggan

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LoneWolf said:
why would you want a relationship with a hottie? you see it everywhere man. they never last. id rather settle for an average like 6/7. at least then you know guys aren't trying to hit on her and checking her out every corner you walk. thats just me.. feels like a hassle to keep a hot girl around. you know how many guys want to tap that? its like a bunch of lions fighting over a piece of meat. shes gonna have guys chatting her up 24/7. big competition :p

Yeah.

You sound like a bit of a wiener.
 
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