"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HB flaked out....Its time to lay the mack down!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I do hate it when everything looks good and then when the time comes you are left standing alone. It seams she just wasnt quite on the same clock but still contacted you. The ones i hate are the ones that never contact you then never even remember you had plans the next time you seen them. At that point its like F-U and next. Its like your time isnt important.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You should have got dressed and been ready for the date and then give her a call an hour prior to the date for confirmation. If she fails to get back to you within half and hour then consider the date a no go and toss out her number and then go do other plans.
You jumped the gun to early in my opinion.
ApocalypseCow2
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Dude, you texted her (I'm guessing) an hour before the date. She didn't answer. Want to know why? She was probably getting ready!
As for the money thing, it seems fine to me since she offered to pay for the next date.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
you think youre more of a DJ than you really are....Relax man youre not. Yea i agree, between the two options i would have not chosen movies with a girl who doesnt have money. But you decide that before you make a date. I wouldnt really care if i stood the girl up and i had a good reason, but if it was due to insecurity just bc she didnt call then id wipe the sand off my vagina.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Indeed. You expected her to flake...so you jumped at the first flake" signal she supposedly gave. I think maybe you were setting yourself up for failure, and then make excuses or reasons why you are right.
So do you plan on seeing this chick, and what excuse did you tell her?
DJohnson
Don Juan
2. It is not a bad thing to occasionaly reschedule. It shows you have a life. She had no problem delaying her reaction to you, so you should not feel negative about delaying the pleasure you are going to give her on your next date.
Man, paid a few pennies! Its not going to attack your self-esteem or bad image.
And I agree with the others, just cuz she doesnt respond, doesnt mean she doesnt want you. Theres 10000000's reasons for why she may not. If you tell her your going to call, call, cuz if you don't, you'll definetly blow ur chances.
Theres no point in acting all tough and confidence if you cant pick up.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i agree but when you stand a girl bc you didnt think she wasnt going to show up just bc she didnt return a text message right away that shows insecurity. as i said i could care less if something else came up and i couldnt go on the date, but thats if i at least had a good reason.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
CALL.