"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HB flaked out....Its time to lay the mack down!
- Thread starter ARK
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I do hate it when everything looks good and then when the time comes you are left standing alone. It seams she just wasnt quite on the same clock but still contacted you. The ones i hate are the ones that never contact you then never even remember you had plans the next time you seen them. At that point its like F-U and next. Its like your time isnt important.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You should have got dressed and been ready for the date and then give her a call an hour prior to the date for confirmation. If she fails to get back to you within half and hour then consider the date a no go and toss out her number and then go do other plans.
You jumped the gun to early in my opinion.
ApocalypseCow2
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Dude, you texted her (I'm guessing) an hour before the date. She didn't answer. Want to know why? She was probably getting ready!
As for the money thing, it seems fine to me since she offered to pay for the next date.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
you think youre more of a DJ than you really are....Relax man youre not. Yea i agree, between the two options i would have not chosen movies with a girl who doesnt have money. But you decide that before you make a date. I wouldnt really care if i stood the girl up and i had a good reason, but if it was due to insecurity just bc she didnt call then id wipe the sand off my vagina.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Indeed. You expected her to flake...so you jumped at the first flake" signal she supposedly gave. I think maybe you were setting yourself up for failure, and then make excuses or reasons why you are right.
So do you plan on seeing this chick, and what excuse did you tell her?
DJohnson
Don Juan
2. It is not a bad thing to occasionaly reschedule. It shows you have a life. She had no problem delaying her reaction to you, so you should not feel negative about delaying the pleasure you are going to give her on your next date.
Man, paid a few pennies! Its not going to attack your self-esteem or bad image.
And I agree with the others, just cuz she doesnt respond, doesnt mean she doesnt want you. Theres 10000000's reasons for why she may not. If you tell her your going to call, call, cuz if you don't, you'll definetly blow ur chances.
Theres no point in acting all tough and confidence if you cant pick up.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i agree but when you stand a girl bc you didnt think she wasnt going to show up just bc she didnt return a text message right away that shows insecurity. as i said i could care less if something else came up and i couldnt go on the date, but thats if i at least had a good reason.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
CALL.