"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
HB flaked out....Its time to lay the mack down!
- Thread starter ARK
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I do hate it when everything looks good and then when the time comes you are left standing alone. It seams she just wasnt quite on the same clock but still contacted you. The ones i hate are the ones that never contact you then never even remember you had plans the next time you seen them. At that point its like F-U and next. Its like your time isnt important.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You should have got dressed and been ready for the date and then give her a call an hour prior to the date for confirmation. If she fails to get back to you within half and hour then consider the date a no go and toss out her number and then go do other plans.
You jumped the gun to early in my opinion.
ApocalypseCow2
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 18, 2005
- Messages
- 217
- Reaction score
- 1
Dude, you texted her (I'm guessing) an hour before the date. She didn't answer. Want to know why? She was probably getting ready!
As for the money thing, it seems fine to me since she offered to pay for the next date.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
you think youre more of a DJ than you really are....Relax man youre not. Yea i agree, between the two options i would have not chosen movies with a girl who doesnt have money. But you decide that before you make a date. I wouldnt really care if i stood the girl up and i had a good reason, but if it was due to insecurity just bc she didnt call then id wipe the sand off my vagina.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Indeed. You expected her to flake...so you jumped at the first flake" signal she supposedly gave. I think maybe you were setting yourself up for failure, and then make excuses or reasons why you are right.
So do you plan on seeing this chick, and what excuse did you tell her?
DJohnson
Don Juan
2. It is not a bad thing to occasionaly reschedule. It shows you have a life. She had no problem delaying her reaction to you, so you should not feel negative about delaying the pleasure you are going to give her on your next date.
Man, paid a few pennies! Its not going to attack your self-esteem or bad image.
And I agree with the others, just cuz she doesnt respond, doesnt mean she doesnt want you. Theres 10000000's reasons for why she may not. If you tell her your going to call, call, cuz if you don't, you'll definetly blow ur chances.
Theres no point in acting all tough and confidence if you cant pick up.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i agree but when you stand a girl bc you didnt think she wasnt going to show up just bc she didnt return a text message right away that shows insecurity. as i said i could care less if something else came up and i couldnt go on the date, but thats if i at least had a good reason.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
CALL.