"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
HB flaked out....Its time to lay the mack down!
- Thread starter ARK
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I do hate it when everything looks good and then when the time comes you are left standing alone. It seams she just wasnt quite on the same clock but still contacted you. The ones i hate are the ones that never contact you then never even remember you had plans the next time you seen them. At that point its like F-U and next. Its like your time isnt important.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You should have got dressed and been ready for the date and then give her a call an hour prior to the date for confirmation. If she fails to get back to you within half and hour then consider the date a no go and toss out her number and then go do other plans.
You jumped the gun to early in my opinion.
ApocalypseCow2
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Dude, you texted her (I'm guessing) an hour before the date. She didn't answer. Want to know why? She was probably getting ready!
As for the money thing, it seems fine to me since she offered to pay for the next date.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
you think youre more of a DJ than you really are....Relax man youre not. Yea i agree, between the two options i would have not chosen movies with a girl who doesnt have money. But you decide that before you make a date. I wouldnt really care if i stood the girl up and i had a good reason, but if it was due to insecurity just bc she didnt call then id wipe the sand off my vagina.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Indeed. You expected her to flake...so you jumped at the first flake" signal she supposedly gave. I think maybe you were setting yourself up for failure, and then make excuses or reasons why you are right.
So do you plan on seeing this chick, and what excuse did you tell her?
DJohnson
Don Juan
2. It is not a bad thing to occasionaly reschedule. It shows you have a life. She had no problem delaying her reaction to you, so you should not feel negative about delaying the pleasure you are going to give her on your next date.
Man, paid a few pennies! Its not going to attack your self-esteem or bad image.
And I agree with the others, just cuz she doesnt respond, doesnt mean she doesnt want you. Theres 10000000's reasons for why she may not. If you tell her your going to call, call, cuz if you don't, you'll definetly blow ur chances.
Theres no point in acting all tough and confidence if you cant pick up.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i agree but when you stand a girl bc you didnt think she wasnt going to show up just bc she didnt return a text message right away that shows insecurity. as i said i could care less if something else came up and i couldnt go on the date, but thats if i at least had a good reason.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
CALL.