"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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HB 6 offering to pay for a return flight to sleep with me

darksprezzatura

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About this one:
Old fling.

Doctor
Feminine
Aims to please.
High achiever.

I told her I'm leaving the country and she's on call as a doctor 24/7, so she won't be able to take some days off to meet.

She's rich and willing to pay for my travel expenses.

What could go wrong?
Is this a little messed up power dynamic wise?
I kind of feel like a prostitute but maybe I'm overthinking it.


This has never happened before.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don’t!

COVID-19. She’s a doctor. She has high contact rate with patients. Russia has 3 vaccines and medicineavailable and it is free. Sht hole you at has none and it is paid.

Ask her if you can have a raine check on this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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darksprezzatura

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You up for an adventure? Then go.
Desire to see you and willing to pay a return flight. I dont see an issue. If you are into it. Then go.

Just keep in mind you going to her in itself is in her frame but if she is a plate then it is what it is.
Yeah that's what I'm thinking. I'll ask her to transfer the money to my account. That act of compliance would shift frame.
 

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Just remember she can take sex off the table...so worst case scenario, you get a free trip and some miles. But you'll probably get the whole shebang. Not to sound crass but a DJ often profits from his flings.
Definitely a possiblity and why I would personally pipeline some backups before I go, through various apps in advance. Hell, I used to do that before going on vacation with any girl I was going out with at the time. You just never know...
 

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I won't count my eggs before they hatch.

Gonna text her today to transfer the money.

Tinder to setup backup dates there.

Plan on staying there one night only.

This might turn out to be an story to remember.
 

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Definitely a possiblity and why I would personally pipeline some backups before I go, through various apps in advance. Hell, I used to do that before going on vacation with any girl I was going out with at the time. You just never know...
Good idea
 

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You should buy a Hitachi and change this broad forever, thing works good man, only complaint its too intense for some.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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alright I texted her to send the cash, we haven't met for years but she transferred like 500 dollars
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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About this one:
Old fling.

Doctor
Feminine
Aims to please.
High achiever.

I told her I'm leaving the country and she's on call as a doctor 24/7, so she won't be able to take some days off to meet.

She's rich and willing to pay for my travel expenses.

What could go wrong?
Is this a little messed up power dynamic wise?
I kind of feel like a prostitute but maybe I'm overthinking it.


This has never happened before.
Pic?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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