"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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having higher energy that the girl

another_nice_guy

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I am travelling in South America at the moment and met a guy who I talked game with. He was saying that a guy also has to have more energy that the girl when talking to her.

But couldnt this come across as being desperate?? I couldnt find any mention of this theory when doing a search.

My friend somehow bedded a 9 that night, he even admitted she was way out of his league so he must have done something right.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SgtSplacker

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For some reason after reading the subject I read your post really fast.


But no, you should only have your energy just a little higher than hers. Just enough to lead her through the night and into the sack.
 

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SgtSplacker said:
For some reason after reading the subject I read your post really fast.


But no, you should only have your energy just a little higher than hers. Just enough to lead her through the night and into the sack.
^This.

Being too animated and having too much energy can come across as gay.

It's great entertainment for the girl, but no so good for getting you laid.
 

DJVladdy

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this^^^

Do not come across as a dancing monkey. Match your energy to same level as hers. If she is feeling you, your energy can be wherever you want it.
 
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