pancakepalace
Don Juan
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Have you ever gone out with a depressed woman? Depressed as in clinically depressed, taking pills. If so, how was it?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Diagnosed or not, these women will make your life dull, sad, and miserable. Their depression is contagious and once you feel down, they move forward to make the next person sad.Have you ever gone out with a depressed woman? Depressed as in clinically depressed, taking pills. If so, how was it?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Im currently OLDing and am being told that most females are not happy. There's always something wrong/to complain about with them. Interesting....Choose women who are pre-happy.
I feel like the world is suddenly being taken over by chunky, sicky-sweet, tattooed, white-trash single moms. Bartenders. Waitresses. Breakfast servers. Baristas. Apartment managers... and they almost exclusively, instantly say the dumbest thing.Im currently OLDing and am being told that most females are not happy. There's always something wrong/to complain about with them. Interesting....
It seems as if the guys are exasperated with feeling like she is complaining hoping that he will fix it. That and the complaints are not correctable, so that frustrates them as well.
I hear what you are saying but it also sounds like these are places of business that you frequent. Those calibur of female might not be on your level.I feel like the world is suddenly being taken over by chunky, sicky-sweet, tattooed, white-trash single moms. Bartenders. Waitresses. Breakfast servers. Baristas. Apartment managers... and they almost exclusively, instantly say the dumbest thing.
"Oh you're getting a coffee today, eh? Moving up in the world? Hee hee!!"
God, what could be worse than broke, divorced women MY age who were never hot?!"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah it sucks man I've been there as well, multiple times. Learn to screen for this now. I've even had woman hid the fact that they were on something or needed to be but they weren't.I hear you guys. I had a bit of oneitis for her, but it's fast fading away. I didn't really think of her in the last few days. Problem is she is very compatible except for that depression part. What's scary, is she looks like she has been depressed most of her life. In all her photos, from years ago, she is always with a gloomy face. Never really smiles. I on the other hand love life. What messed me up is she is very beautiful, and has many things in common with me. It's a bit uncanny.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.