pancakepalace
Don Juan
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Have you ever gone out with a depressed woman? Depressed as in clinically depressed, taking pills. If so, how was it?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Diagnosed or not, these women will make your life dull, sad, and miserable. Their depression is contagious and once you feel down, they move forward to make the next person sad.Have you ever gone out with a depressed woman? Depressed as in clinically depressed, taking pills. If so, how was it?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Im currently OLDing and am being told that most females are not happy. There's always something wrong/to complain about with them. Interesting....Choose women who are pre-happy.
I feel like the world is suddenly being taken over by chunky, sicky-sweet, tattooed, white-trash single moms. Bartenders. Waitresses. Breakfast servers. Baristas. Apartment managers... and they almost exclusively, instantly say the dumbest thing.Im currently OLDing and am being told that most females are not happy. There's always something wrong/to complain about with them. Interesting....
It seems as if the guys are exasperated with feeling like she is complaining hoping that he will fix it. That and the complaints are not correctable, so that frustrates them as well.
I hear what you are saying but it also sounds like these are places of business that you frequent. Those calibur of female might not be on your level.I feel like the world is suddenly being taken over by chunky, sicky-sweet, tattooed, white-trash single moms. Bartenders. Waitresses. Breakfast servers. Baristas. Apartment managers... and they almost exclusively, instantly say the dumbest thing.
"Oh you're getting a coffee today, eh? Moving up in the world? Hee hee!!"
God, what could be worse than broke, divorced women MY age who were never hot?!"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah it sucks man I've been there as well, multiple times. Learn to screen for this now. I've even had woman hid the fact that they were on something or needed to be but they weren't.I hear you guys. I had a bit of oneitis for her, but it's fast fading away. I didn't really think of her in the last few days. Problem is she is very compatible except for that depression part. What's scary, is she looks like she has been depressed most of her life. In all her photos, from years ago, she is always with a gloomy face. Never really smiles. I on the other hand love life. What messed me up is she is very beautiful, and has many things in common with me. It's a bit uncanny.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.