"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Have you ever felt like taking a break?

Kourt

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Have you guys ever felt like taking a break pursueing women or just giving up for a little while? Things just havnt been going my way lately so I'm feeling a little depressed and feel like giving up on women for a little while. Just wondering.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oda

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if it feels like work you are doing it wrong.

it should be fun like a game
 

Craig Reeves

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Heh.

Don't worry about it. All DJ's go through times where things just aren't necessarily going the way you would like them to. These periods can last for a few days, to actually a few months.

The best thing to do to avoid problems like these is to keep moving, because you'll eventually move PAST the actual problem. If you spend your time just sitting around, you'll never actually be DOING anything about your problem, so it will not go away (since nobody is going to do it for you), so the longer you do nothing the longer you'll be in your predicament.
 

Fred Da Head

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Yeah, I think sometimes you need to step back and stop pursuing girls. I don't think this has anything to do with the fact you're "doing it wrong" unlike oda said. Even games can get boring, or you might want to stop doing it for a while.

Kourt - Are "things not going your way" only including girls, or is life in general sucking right now?

I think that sometimes you should just pull back, have some fun with your bachelor friends, or follow your passion, or whatever, and forget about chicks for a while. Never completely give up, of course, but step back and be detached.

You never know, you might end up getting more chicks that way. (That happened to me, actually)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by oda
if it feels like work you are doing it wrong.

it should be fun like a game
That's the perfect attitude!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kourt

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nah not life in general, just girls

since schools started i've done many cold approaches, gotten 20+ numbers, yet I still havnt been able to get past a date or 2 and devolp something solid, or get laid for that matter, hah its fun until trying to set up the first date and getting the run around
 
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