VikingKing
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And how many times? In relationships where you were not cheated on, or you think it was unlikely.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.TheMonkeyKing said:Have quite a few times when I was younger. Usually drunk. Usually when frustrated/bored in a relationship. Don't bother anymore. If a relationship is tailing off or I meet someone else, I just end it immeidately. Last time I cheated, I ended it within the week. Can't be doing with the hassle to be honest. Don't know how women do it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have already.VikingKing said:Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.
Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.PipeDope said:Never have. Is it a rush? How have you felt afterwards
Easy. Female rationalizations. That's how.logicallefty said:Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is the most important part. The moment women start believing you are loyal to them, that's the moment when they will start disrespecting you.Who Dares Win said:Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MY1KXf0hlkQWho Dares Win said:There is not a single girl I didnt cheat on.
Why? because of libido and because of the need to conquer, plus Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.
When it comes of cheating we're not equal.
What makes me feel guilty instead is the fact that I didnt treat certain girls as good as I should, I feel much more guilty about my bad behaviour toward many good girls than the fact of cheating, in some way that was more a masturbation with a girl body.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.