VikingKing
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And how many times? In relationships where you were not cheated on, or you think it was unlikely.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.TheMonkeyKing said:Have quite a few times when I was younger. Usually drunk. Usually when frustrated/bored in a relationship. Don't bother anymore. If a relationship is tailing off or I meet someone else, I just end it immeidately. Last time I cheated, I ended it within the week. Can't be doing with the hassle to be honest. Don't know how women do it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have already.VikingKing said:Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.
Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.PipeDope said:Never have. Is it a rush? How have you felt afterwards
Easy. Female rationalizations. That's how.logicallefty said:Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is the most important part. The moment women start believing you are loyal to them, that's the moment when they will start disrespecting you.Who Dares Win said:Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MY1KXf0hlkQWho Dares Win said:There is not a single girl I didnt cheat on.
Why? because of libido and because of the need to conquer, plus Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.
When it comes of cheating we're not equal.
What makes me feel guilty instead is the fact that I didnt treat certain girls as good as I should, I feel much more guilty about my bad behaviour toward many good girls than the fact of cheating, in some way that was more a masturbation with a girl body.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.