"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have you ever cheated?

How many of you have cheated, in how many relationships?

  • Never

    Votes: 16 39.0%
  • Only in one relationship

    Votes: 13 31.7%
  • In two

    Votes: 1 2.4%
  • More than two relationships

    Votes: 11 26.8%

  • Total voters
    41

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Never have. Is it a rush? How have you felt afterwards
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Have quite a few times when I was younger. Usually drunk. Usually when frustrated/bored in a relationship. Don't bother anymore. If a relationship is tailing off or I meet someone else, I just end it immeidately. Last time I cheated, I ended it within the week. Can't be doing with the hassle to be honest. Don't know how women do it.
 

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TheMonkeyKing said:
Have quite a few times when I was younger. Usually drunk. Usually when frustrated/bored in a relationship. Don't bother anymore. If a relationship is tailing off or I meet someone else, I just end it immeidately. Last time I cheated, I ended it within the week. Can't be doing with the hassle to be honest. Don't know how women do it.
Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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VikingKing said:
Could you also vote so all the counts can be in one place.
I have already.
 

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been tempted, but no.
 

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PipeDope said:
Never have. Is it a rush? How have you felt afterwards
Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.
 

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logicallefty said:
Cheated on one GF one time in early 06. Felt so bad that I dumped the GF because I could no longer look her in the eye and live with the guilt and myself. I don't know how these women who are chronic cheaters can stomach it like its nothing.
Easy. Female rationalizations. That's how.

"he doesn't pay enough attention to me"
"he makes me the butt of his jokes"
"I've been unhappy for quite some time"
"He has a small d*ck"
"I just don't have that feeling for him anymore"
"he works too much"
"he doesn't make me feel like he loves me"
etc, etc, etc.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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way2smart

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I have cheated multiple times in multiple relationships.
I did feel some guilt at first, but I got used to it and even got proficient at lying.
But I would only cheat if I am sure I will get away with it and she will never find out.

That's my personal choice and I don't recommend people do it, but I don't feel any type of guilt anymore.
 

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There is not a single girl I didnt cheat on.

Why? because of libido and because of the need to conquer, plus Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.

When it comes of cheating we're not equal.

What makes me feel guilty instead is the fact that I didnt treat certain girls as good as I should, I feel much more guilty about my bad behaviour toward many good girls than the fact of cheating, in some way that was more a masturbation with a girl body.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.
This is the most important part. The moment women start believing you are loyal to them, that's the moment when they will start disrespecting you.

Besides, most women would cheat themselves if Brad Pitt wanted to bang them.
 

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Never have, never will. I dont commit to women I cannot be loyal to. I dont break my word because I value honesty, and expect the same in my women if I am to commit.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Did it with my ex-wife. She was never home, so I found some female attention elsewhere. My mistress was also cheating on her fiancee, so we were both pretty much in the same boat.
 

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I have never cheated in terms of sleeping with anyone else, however I have kissed other girls in the club when drunk (completely meaningless and pointless, high risk and no reward.)

I feel a certain amount of guilt towards it, however I do know it was completely meaningless and just a stupid mistake which I won't make again, if your happy, sh!t like that is just stupid!
 

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Yes I would cheat. But I might meet a girl that supply all my needs and I wont feel the urge to do it. Yet I think I can't resist a hot colombian short girl with curly hair big eyes and popped up titties tho o0
 

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I can honestly say that I NEVER cheated on an exclusive relationship. When I feel the need to cheat I end the relationship before that happens.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
There is not a single girl I didnt cheat on.

Why? because of libido and because of the need to conquer, plus Im a man and I should be taken accountable on a different standard.

When it comes of cheating we're not equal.

What makes me feel guilty instead is the fact that I didnt treat certain girls as good as I should, I feel much more guilty about my bad behaviour toward many good girls than the fact of cheating, in some way that was more a masturbation with a girl body.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MY1KXf0hlkQ
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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