So a couple months back I went on a few dates with this gorgeous and unbelievably fit woman. Kissed on the first date. Made out on the second and again on the third. After the third it kinda fell off. This was before I read TRM. I was looking for serious and she was just post divorce. After finishing the book, today, I decided to send her a message. I stated, "I know you aren't looking for a serious relationship but what about a sexual one." She's in! We have a 'date' for the morning. So I got it here but what kind of communication should I keep going between now and tomorrow morning? I don't want this to fall through. She is a pretty innocent kind of woman. Her ex was her first. I'd be her 3rd. She has already stated that she is nervous. Any advice would be great.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Have a sex date for tomorrow. Need help!
- Thread starter Cairn
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MountainSlide
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Yep. She shouldn’t forget about you between now and then :’D
let her show up or not show up, end of story. if she's coming over in the morning, it's like 12+ hours before she gets there. how much contact do you think she needs? rest up and get your fill of her tomorrow. do what you want, get your rocks off and if she likes it, maybe you'll get some again. if not, oh well, at least you got your rocks off. for God's sake, don't be nice, do whatever comes into your mind and let her accept. if you do that, most likely you'll get a return date.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
