So a couple months back I went on a few dates with this gorgeous and unbelievably fit woman. Kissed on the first date. Made out on the second and again on the third. After the third it kinda fell off. This was before I read TRM. I was looking for serious and she was just post divorce. After finishing the book, today, I decided to send her a message. I stated, "I know you aren't looking for a serious relationship but what about a sexual one." She's in! We have a 'date' for the morning. So I got it here but what kind of communication should I keep going between now and tomorrow morning? I don't want this to fall through. She is a pretty innocent kind of woman. Her ex was her first. I'd be her 3rd. She has already stated that she is nervous. Any advice would be great.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Have a sex date for tomorrow. Need help!
- Thread starter Cairn
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
MountainSlide
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Yep. She shouldn’t forget about you between now and then :’D
let her show up or not show up, end of story. if she's coming over in the morning, it's like 12+ hours before she gets there. how much contact do you think she needs? rest up and get your fill of her tomorrow. do what you want, get your rocks off and if she likes it, maybe you'll get some again. if not, oh well, at least you got your rocks off. for God's sake, don't be nice, do whatever comes into your mind and let her accept. if you do that, most likely you'll get a return date.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
