So a couple months back I went on a few dates with this gorgeous and unbelievably fit woman. Kissed on the first date. Made out on the second and again on the third. After the third it kinda fell off. This was before I read TRM. I was looking for serious and she was just post divorce. After finishing the book, today, I decided to send her a message. I stated, "I know you aren't looking for a serious relationship but what about a sexual one." She's in! We have a 'date' for the morning. So I got it here but what kind of communication should I keep going between now and tomorrow morning? I don't want this to fall through. She is a pretty innocent kind of woman. Her ex was her first. I'd be her 3rd. She has already stated that she is nervous. Any advice would be great.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Have a sex date for tomorrow. Need help!
- Thread starter Cairn
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MountainSlide
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Yep. She shouldn’t forget about you between now and then :’D
let her show up or not show up, end of story. if she's coming over in the morning, it's like 12+ hours before she gets there. how much contact do you think she needs? rest up and get your fill of her tomorrow. do what you want, get your rocks off and if she likes it, maybe you'll get some again. if not, oh well, at least you got your rocks off. for God's sake, don't be nice, do whatever comes into your mind and let her accept. if you do that, most likely you'll get a return date.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
