Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
damn...you lost hair? do you mean you were going bald in some places or did your hairline receed? Because damn, when me and my oneitis(chick i used to date) were fighting not too long ago, I noticed that my hairline obviously receeded. I asked my mom if receeding hairlines was genetic in her side or my dads and she said "neither"(which is true)...it was pretty drastic too. We're good now so im hoping that my hairline goes back to normal...how long did it take?SexinEar said:The tension I put on myself from being a shy ass kid who couldnt talk to this dumb b1tch grew so extreme i lost some hair for god sakes. My hair went normal thank god after i got over her, but damn that was a absolute low.
Yea mine receeded, a little bit but if I pushed my hair back it was pretty noticiable. Point being I was 15!!, but it grew back to normal when the stress was gone and i forgot about her and went after other girls and broke the shyness in my case. Get rid of the stress for number 1.Rebound Material said:damn...you lost hair? do you mean you were going bald in some places or did your hairline receed? Because damn, when me and my oneitis(chick i used to date) were fighting not too long ago, I noticed that my hairline obviously receeded. I asked my mom if receeding hairlines was genetic in her side or my dads and she said "neither"(which is true)...it was pretty drastic too. We're good now so im hoping that my hairline goes back to normal...how long did it take?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's hard to explain. This was back in college so I haven't even seen her in two years. I was basically reacting poorly (and idiotically) to the fact that she didn't want to be my girlfriend and she was angry about it. I couldn't help it because I felt like I got burned for no reason. The last time we 'talked' we just exchanged a "hi" coldly and walked past each other. I graduated the following week. It' s weird that I still think about her because a lot has happened for me in those two years. I guess you still kind of wonder.JJMcLure said:What made her start hating you anyway?
I hope mine grows back regardless...sh!t, this receeding crap just isnt gonna cut it...SexinEar said:And my hair went back to normal in a couple of weeks btw.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.