"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Has anyone here been/is in a normal healthy relationship?

[S]alvatore

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After seeing gods gift to women's "Discussion on keeping women around" thread, I thought about this. So who of you here have been or are currently in a relationship where there are no games, no lies, no cheating and it is actually based around how you feel towards one another? (I didn't include sh1t-tests in there because I think it is fine for women to do these at the start to see how strong of a character a man has, and whether he can think on his own two feet. But if they continually happen then it is wrong).

It just seems that the majority of relationships i've been involved in, there is always one person who has the power while the other doesn't. Then something happens and the roles are reversed. And in my recollection there have only been a few instances where no-one had power over the other, and the feelings/respect were mutual. Re-imposing my question: Who has or is currently in a healthy relationship?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Ummm... I'll take the "0" (zero) for this assignment...

Do they even make a woman that would foster such a relationship?
 

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Zero. All of my strong, healthy, long lasting relationships had the woman liking me somewhat more than I liked her. It's the natural way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Truth

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I have been in a strong and healthy relationship for 9 months (just added pic to picture thread). It is kinda sad that not many guys here have that, but there is not much relationship advice being given out on this forum. Actually a lot of it is anti-relationship advice.

In my opinion a lot of guys here overcomplicate things or try too hard to take all the power. Relationships aren't about constant power struggles. They need to be equal and based on mutual respect and attraction.

A lot of you also need to learn how to relax and be yourself. Facades and gimmicks do not work in relationships.
 

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nope.
 

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The Truth said:
In my opinion a lot of guys here overcomplicate things or try too hard to take all the power. Relationships aren't about constant power struggles. They need to be equal and based on mutual respect and attraction.
You dear, sweet man!! Fight the Power!!
 

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I thought I was in a healthy relationship, once. About three solid years. She left me for my best friend, no warning, and the clincher was, she put the cats I gave her as kittens to sleep when she moved in with him -- his apartment wouldn't take pets.

I thought I had her all dialed in, too.

Fvck 'em all.
 

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Nope,not one healthy one. Meh I'm young though,my time will come sooner or later.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The Truth

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Doesn't say a lot about this forum does it?
 

blinkwatt

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The Truth said:
Doesn't say a lot about this forum does it?
Depends,what do you consider a "healthy" relationship. I would call a "healthy" relationship one that last longer then 3 months and I 100% trusted the other person. Most members are here on how to "seduce" women and get one-night-stands,not for relationships.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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I was in a 3yr relationship, a 2yr relationship and a bunch of one year's. They were all really healthy and there were no games.

The funny thing is, ever since I discovered sosuave, I've not been in very many LTR's but I've had much more success with short term flings and one night stands.

Right now, I'm kinda trying to find the balance where i can attract a good girl to get serious with, but still maintain my outgoing "non-pvssy whipped" attitude. That's my goal.
 
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