"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hahhaa, funny CnF line
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That's the problem with new guys that I had for a long time. You have great c/f lines but can't handle it when she has some herself!CaliRIP said:
The thing is if c/f is working she will probably join in too, just roll with it and have fun "The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Like I would have said(and remember I am kinda drunk right now): "So are these people that have never seen true beauty, are they blind or just stupid"
Now that sounds like a really aggressive line, and I probably only say it when I am drinking, but if you do say it when your drinking or partying, then lines like this work wonders, as the aggressiveness can be blamed on the alcohol. They can still be pulled off when sober, but it has to be with a girl who knows how to take a joke.
In the end I am just trying to get across the point, that you should always come back with another C&F line until you end it. So if she is cool and smart enough to banter back with more C&F lines, then you just keep it up until in a joking way you kind of win it. For some reason this seems to attract girls like crazy. Its like the more you insult them in a joking way, the more they want you.
So basicailly, you are obviously doing something right, but just learn to keep it up in the conversation, and to keep it going instead of just one liners.
I still don't get it. People are watching her because she's an animal at the zoo or because she's hot?HandyAndy said:
a) if she's an "animal" at the zoo, that's offensive
b) if she's hot, she doesn't have to be at the zoo, she could be at the mall and people could be watching her
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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To the OP: That was a burn! hahahaha
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haha..HandyAndy said:
isn't being offensive part of CnF
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.