You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm the same way. I go there to work out, but I always keep an eye open. If I catch a looker i'll go over and open her. If I don't get that initial eye fuucking i'll just ignore em.Vice said:When I go to the gym I go to do battle and focus on my workout, not pick up chicks.
With that being said, if a girl wants to meet you, she will eye f*ck you and subtly follow you around the gym, so you better open her!
Gym classes are the best place to meet the girls. Come early and chat up whoever is around you, regardless of gender, and then close in on the one you like before class starts. During class, focus on ONLY the class, and then continue the conversation after class ends.
But when it comes to lifting, focus on your workout and again only take advantage of girls that throw themselves at you.
I'm not by far the most jacked dude at the gym, but the girls that I've met who were following me around told me they liked me because I wasn't trying to impress anyone and was just doing my own thing, and they liked that. Other dudes will posture and look around to see who's looking at them. Don't be that guy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
bigneil said:Everyone got this right: for the love of God, no OP!
Ask any girl and they will tell you: they HATE guys hitting on them at the gym. They go there to improve, not to look improved.
You are simply gawking at them and they will project Evil Treadmill Vibe, complete with headphones and indoor visors.
Furthermore, the lowliest couples on Earth are the sweaty "Gym couples", featuring some chick from ROTC and an overprotective DB who made the same mistake you're hoping to make. And they never lift the same amount, nor is she strong enough to spot him. Please don't form gym couples.
And if I see one more couple who jogged to the grocery store together I'm going to break something. It's nothing more than a ploy by her to dress down to make it seem like he has an actual purpose behind wearing those $6 spandex shorts he bought at Ross in 2002. Thank you for not having jogged here.
Side note: why work OUT when you can work PERIOD? Sure, exercise your muscles, but pull-ups and push-ups and biking are enough, and you don't need a membership. Join a hiking club or build a rock wall or something instead.