Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm the same way. I go there to work out, but I always keep an eye open. If I catch a looker i'll go over and open her. If I don't get that initial eye fuucking i'll just ignore em.Vice said:When I go to the gym I go to do battle and focus on my workout, not pick up chicks.
With that being said, if a girl wants to meet you, she will eye f*ck you and subtly follow you around the gym, so you better open her!
Gym classes are the best place to meet the girls. Come early and chat up whoever is around you, regardless of gender, and then close in on the one you like before class starts. During class, focus on ONLY the class, and then continue the conversation after class ends.
But when it comes to lifting, focus on your workout and again only take advantage of girls that throw themselves at you.
I'm not by far the most jacked dude at the gym, but the girls that I've met who were following me around told me they liked me because I wasn't trying to impress anyone and was just doing my own thing, and they liked that. Other dudes will posture and look around to see who's looking at them. Don't be that guy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bigneil said:Everyone got this right: for the love of God, no OP!
Ask any girl and they will tell you: they HATE guys hitting on them at the gym. They go there to improve, not to look improved.
You are simply gawking at them and they will project Evil Treadmill Vibe, complete with headphones and indoor visors.
Furthermore, the lowliest couples on Earth are the sweaty "Gym couples", featuring some chick from ROTC and an overprotective DB who made the same mistake you're hoping to make. And they never lift the same amount, nor is she strong enough to spot him. Please don't form gym couples.
And if I see one more couple who jogged to the grocery store together I'm going to break something. It's nothing more than a ploy by her to dress down to make it seem like he has an actual purpose behind wearing those $6 spandex shorts he bought at Ross in 2002. Thank you for not having jogged here.
Side note: why work OUT when you can work PERIOD? Sure, exercise your muscles, but pull-ups and push-ups and biking are enough, and you don't need a membership. Join a hiking club or build a rock wall or something instead.