"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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CostaDeSol

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Hey guys, I recently joined a big gym that has TONS of women. But i usually don't run in to them because I go there for just the free weights.

What have been your strategies to asking women out at the gym? Do you just walk up to them while they are working out at the work out machines? Do you go to the classes and meet them there, since there are a variety of classes like zumba/biking/etc?

I was hoping those who have successfully dated girls from their gym could give me feedback on this.

thanks in advance!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I agree with Espi, I train at home and at a Snap which is over the road, what I have found is that the attractive women who are really into their workouts seem to go to other gyms. The whole gym scene seems to be getting more and more anti socialable with the advent of ipods. The bigger gyms which have a lot of social activities outside the gym are probably the way to go.
 

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I agree with Espi, I train at home and at a Snap which is over the road, what I have found is that the attractive women who are really into their workouts seem to go to other gyms. The whole gym scene seems to be getting more and more anti socialable with the advent of ipods. The bigger gyms which have a lot of social activities outside the gym are probably the way to go.
 

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I agree with Espi, I train at home and at a Snap which is over the road, what I have found is that the attractive women who are really into their workouts seem to go to other gyms. The whole gym scene seems to be getting more and more anti socialable with the advent of ipods. The bigger gyms which have a lot of social activities outside the gym are probably the way to go.
 

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I agree with Espi, I train at home and at a Snap which is over the road, what I have found is that the attractive women who are really into their workouts seem to go to other gyms. The whole gym scene seems to be getting more and more anti socialable with the advent of ipods. The bigger gyms which have a lot of social activities outside the gym are probably the way to go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Espi said:
I have learned that it's best for me to keep a polite distance from women in gyms.
I see what you mean. at work I definitely keep it professional with female coworkers, but I wasn't hoping that strategy wouldn't apply to the gym. At the very least I wanted the gym to increase my social circle.
 

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020204 said:
The whole gym scene seems to be getting more and more anti socialable with the advent of ipods. The bigger gyms which have a lot of social activities outside the gym are probably the way to go.
The gym i go to has a lot of classes that you can take, but I haven't looked in to them. I was thinking about checking them out specifically to see if they are a place to meet people.
 
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