Went to a wedding, some facktard was there, kept staring at my woman (possibly soon to be gf). It was obvious that we were together. I noticed my woman checking him out twice as he was pretty much staring at her the entire night. He started gaming other women as the night went along. I wanted to punch him in the face for disrespecting me but obviously I wasn’t going to do this since it was a friends wedding. I don’t get jealous, just think it’s disrespectful for a person to do something like that. How do you react to a situation like this?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Guys who stare at your woman while you are standing right there
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Uhm yes, yes you do!
I don't react, any reaction will only reveal your insecurity. If anything I'd take it as a compliment if other guys check out my GF, they can look but no touching though. As for your potential future GF looking at him it depends on how she looks, is it because this dude is staring at her non-stop or is it a look of interest? I would probably look back if someone stared at me for any amount of time without that meaning I'm interested.
I think you're being paranoid and possessive, not a good trait, chill out. People can look wherever the fvck they want, it doesn't become a big problem before they start touching.
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Clap didnt sound with one hand mate.. That guys owe u nothin.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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If his d1ck isn't inside of her, then there's nothing to worry about.
What you need to watch for is other men orbiting around your woman; men that she allows to be around her. In this case, you DO NOT direct your anger towards those men, you direct it towards the woman and dump her.
Us men have the natural biological desire to protect our investments, and that includes our women. What you're feeling is normal, but you need to direct your actions appropriately.
What you need to watch for is other men orbiting around your woman; men that she allows to be around her. In this case, you DO NOT direct your anger towards those men, you direct it towards the woman and dump her.
Us men have the natural biological desire to protect our investments, and that includes our women. What you're feeling is normal, but you need to direct your actions appropriately.
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This! There is no reason to be upset about it, however, you should watch how she responds. If she invites the attention or doesn't shrug it off, then she is the one you need to watch. Not other men.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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If you are with a hot woman this is going to happen. Just remember a beautiful woman who turns heads is a compliment and a reflection of your prowess to obtain her as well as your good taste.
Other men find what you have desirable. Just smile, drape your arm around her, place your hand on the small of her back or the top of her ass. Have fun with it.
My ex husband and men I date notice & like the heads turning. Makes them look good, so long as I behave (which I do).
Other men find what you have desirable. Just smile, drape your arm around her, place your hand on the small of her back or the top of her ass. Have fun with it.
My ex husband and men I date notice & like the heads turning. Makes them look good, so long as I behave (which I do).
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Agreed. I haven’t seen a guy have the balls to do that around my GF and I yet though. If it does happen, I’d say it’s a good test to see what she does.
How is she "your woman?" She's not even your girlfriend you still act super jealous and possessive. Bizarre low self esteem mentality. YOU are the problem, not the guy staring.
I see this problem frequently among low status guys who are overly imaginative and consider female friends and acquaintances to be "their" women when they are anything but and the girls find them creepy and yes, keep them around as orbiters. (Hate to use that overused and abused term, but in some cases it is meaningful and accurate).
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Next time look at him, grab her a$$ and grin.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Agreed. It is impossible to expect people to completely ignore a hot woman in public. This is human nature.
Women approach me and stare at me all the time. If I dress up a bit, a lot of people ask for my picture, including event photographers.
Also, if only ONE guy was staring, maybe she wasn't that hot lol. And it also shows where your level of self esteem is at: not rock bottom, but low.
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>implying
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Turn your competition into a joke in her eyes.
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Good Post. This is good.
Personally, if I catch it all night, I would engage in friendly conversation. Not start a fight but just feel him out. I know its best to ignore it, but I personally may say something. I know myself & lack self control with few coronas. (6 to be specific)
At my age and experience, I think It would bother me. Its disrespectful for someone to be eyeballing or staring at a woman specially at a wedding. Friendly approach would disarm him. Assuming he was indeed, staring. (Overt gaming her)
Better to react in a subtle way or just leave early, then to have my wife question my confidence.
By law, you dont **** with another man's wife. IMO thats one good reason and time a Man trully deserves to get his A.s.s kicked. I stand by that, & so does my father.
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Your brain is so scrambled, it's not even funny.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.