"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guy in my weightlifting class...

Jhcl4000

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There is this guy in my weightlifting class, it actually seems like he's trying to be a PUA/DJ or something, he always has this ****y look on his face, wears a tank-top to the class like he's trying to show himself off, but he's not in the best shape and doesn't have muscular arms, and it just seems like he's really trying to be cool. The second day of class he introduced himself to 2/3 girls in the class, but none of the guys. I, on the other hand, tried to talk to/meet some of the guys to build a bit of status. Third day of class I hopped on to an elliptical next to one of the HB's, and got a conversation going with her as we "warmed up." It went smoothly and lasted around 5 minutes before I got off to go workout (which she seemed to mirror and also got off right as I did). The last couple of classes I've just teased her lightly, thinking about asking her out at some point.... When it isn't going to snow 6 feet over the weekend. Anyways, back to this guy... I was on the treadmill next to him and another guy, so I made a joke about how I was the only one not running, blah blah, and the guy told me that he was hungover... But it was a Tuesday, who the fvck gets drunk on a Monday night? Just giving you a better picture of what he's like. Okay, today I'm talking to the HB during class, and she says something about doing kickboxing. We're talking about that a little bit and the guy, who wasn't in our conversation, says: "I do kickboxing!" Or some sh!t, I guess he was trying to hijack the conversation or something. After he said that I paused for a second, but was surprised when the HB just ignored him, and so did I:crackup:. At the end of class I see them talking, and as the class is walking out he walks past her and say: "I'll hit you up."

I don't know what it is, but there's something about this guy that rubs me the wrong way. I'm also getting the feeling that he doesn't like me for some reason.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like you got a little crush on this guy. You're more into him than the girls...
 

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WhitePimp said:
Sounds like you got a little crush on this guy. You're more into him than the girls...
Doesn't sound like that at all.


The dudes a fag. (not in the gay sense).
 

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Ice882 said:
Doesn't sound like that at all.


The dudes a fag. (not in the gay sense).

Your still on about him? :nono:

they got a word for u it's called "Hater" and they never excel at anything cause they pre-occupy themselves with the next man's business
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DJDamage

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WhitePimp said:
Sounds like you got a little crush on this guy. You're more into him than the girls...
LOL

Yeah I thought your story would lead somewhere but it didn't, it sounded more like a story chicks tells one another: "Oh look at that girl she thinks she is so hot but she is not haha but like whatever she's such a loser and nobody likes her anywayz blah blah blah"

Do you have a point to the story?! sounds like the other guy is trying but is failing and you are giddy about that for some reason.
 

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DJDamage said:
LOL

Yeah I thought your story would lead somewhere but it didn't, it sounded more like a story chicks tells one another: "Oh look at that girl she thinks she is so hot but she is not haha but like whatever she's such a loser and nobody likes her anywayz blah blah blah"

Do you have a point to the story?! sounds like the other guy is trying but is failing and you are giddy about that for some reason.
if we were playing battleships this guy woulda just sunk your ship:kick:
 

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Pretty much the answers I expected.

Thanks. And no, I'm not kidding, I actually mean thanks. I knew I was getting insecure again and need to stop that sh!t.
 
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