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excuse me , who?alphamailman said:Yep, sorry Goundra, hate to break it to you...but you are OUT! :moon:
and out ... of what?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
excuse me , who?alphamailman said:Yep, sorry Goundra, hate to break it to you...but you are OUT! :moon:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
thank you danger. that was exactly what i was talking about. i also thought that was a very well pointed link.Danger said:It seems someone is finally looking at the causes of these incidents.....
And strangely enough, he found some more very strong links of these mass shootings to medications.
http://www.wnd.com/2013/01/the-giant-gaping-hole-in-sandy-hook-reporting/
Thats a very interesting article, is that site politically biased? I would like to forward that link to a friend with which I recently talked about guns but she is arab....so some nationalist site wouldnt exactly be the best thing.Danger said:It seems someone is finally looking at the causes of these incidents.....
And strangely enough, he found some more very strong links of these mass shootings to medications.
http://www.wnd.com/2013/01/the-giant-gaping-hole-in-sandy-hook-reporting/
Misguided Bible Belt.Bible_Belt said:The article said that the guy she shot is on the verge of death. I hope he doesn't die, even if it is only for the sake of her conscious. His crime is burglary, and there is no legal justification for killing someone to defend property. The idea might be popular, but that doesn't make it legal.
No one has the legal right to shoot somebody just because that person is in their house. The "castle doctrine" is part of self-defense law, and it always requires a reasonable belief of impending harm. An intruder simply being there is not enough. He would have had to threaten her with the crowbar, too, before she shot him. I don't know if that happened, but despite what everybody seems to think, even if he's in your house you can't sneak up on a burglar and blow him away before he knows what is going on. That's murder.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bible_Belt said:
The circumstances under which you can get completely away with killing someone are much more limited than most people realize.
surprise surprisePoonani Maker said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don't mistake correlation with causality.Danger said:It seems someone is finally looking at the causes of these incidents.....
And strangely enough, he found some more very strong links of these mass shootings to medications.
http://www.wnd.com/2013/01/the-giant-gaping-hole-in-sandy-hook-reporting/
Oh really? If you shoot someone who has forcibly broken into your residence, which is a class A felony?goundra said:Bad idea to think that drawing means firing. normally, it does NOT. when they see the gun, they STOP. if you hit someone with a bullet, figure on spending $50,000 to stay out of jail, pay bondsman's fees, lost work, having to relocate, having wife and kids harassed, possible divorce, being sued for everything you own, etc.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You have apparently forgotten the original post that started this thread.Alle_Gory said:Regular people aren't used to killing to defend themselves.
There's group, can't remember what they call themselves, but they don't believe in car tags, etc, and if a police pulls them over they shoot em. It could get Really bad here in America if they try to "CONfiscate" door-to-door, guns. There's already elements growing. It could get, and they are just making it/pushing it, worse.Bible_Belt said:If you ever watch the US presidential elections, you know the 'red state/blue state' divide. The blue is the more urban area and the red is larger in geography, but more rural. It is a cultural divide, more so than political, going back as far as the Civil War. The blue states might be open to gun control, which is common in big cities, but the predominant attitude where I live is like the bumper sticker - they can have my gun when they pry it from my cold dead fingers. If the law changes too drastically, everybody will ignore it, not just criminals.
There's another variable that is confusing the issue. Before, there were less mass shootings, less of these drugsPairPlusRoyalFlush said:These mass shootings were a lot rarer in the past even though guns were more accessible.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.