"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Groin pain after workout

Cry For Love

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2007
Messages
294
Reaction score
6
Sometimes after workouts i have noticed that the very lowest part of my abs (pretty much around and above my d*ck) has a sudden surge of pain going through it when i try to stretch my abs(ie lean backwards). It is extremely uncomfortable and i cant figure out an explanation for it. Have you guys experienced anything similar?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Triple T

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 13, 2007
Messages
399
Reaction score
5
Cry For Love said:
Sometimes after workouts i have noticed that the very lowest part of my abs (pretty much around and above my d*ck) has a sudden surge of pain going through it when i try to stretch my abs(ie lean backwards). It is extremely uncomfortable and i cant figure out an explanation for it. Have you guys experienced anything similar?
did you stretch/warm up before your workout?
 

Throttle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 7, 2006
Messages
1,787
Reaction score
11
hard to say for sure but sounds like a cramp. try moving more slowly and gently when you hyperextend your back (maybe try it laying on your stomach, so that gravity slows you down, rather than standing up & bending backwards).
 

Apollo

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 26, 2002
Messages
279
Reaction score
1
Location
Toronto, ON
Check to see if you have a small lump developing. I had the same type of pain and it ended up being a hernia.
 

Throttle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 7, 2006
Messages
1,787
Reaction score
11
ouch, yeah, didn't even occur to me. that's definitely a doctor's diagnosis, ultimately, and if you even suspect it, don't wait, and surely don't put any stress on it until you can see a doc.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Top