"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gripped by improvement.

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Thought maybe the "Gripped by..." has still got something left to it.
So here it goes- a journal for improvement in all aspects of my life.

I will make a check in post every day on the following:

Monkey Spankin: I will say yes or no.
Cardio Exercise: Again yay or nay
Weights: Still Boolean
MJ: Did I get high?
Eating: Healthy?
Work: Degree of academic effort.
Smooth Operations: How many girls did I work the old magic on?
SO (no homo): How many and which dudes did I bantz with?
Growth: Have I grown today?
Worth it: If I looked to this day on my deathbed, would I consider it a waste?

The criteria should stay constant unless I've missed anything key

On Sunday I'll summarize.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Week: 1 Day: Monday

Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Poor effort
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: marginal
Worth it: Could be

Notable event: Journal Started
 
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These daily checks can be helpful. It also suggests you don't really know what you're working on specifically (other than exercise). Are you going to try to cold approach? How will you see your own growth? What milestones will you achieve?
 
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LearningSlowly said:
These daily checks can be helpful. It also suggests you don't really know what you're working on specifically (other than exercise). Are you going to try to cold approach? How will you see your own growth? What milestones will you achieve?
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Yeah I you are right; I will set some more specific goals
First specific goal- Set specific goals
 
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Week: 1 Day: Tuesday
Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Satisfied
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): Expanded a little
Growth: *Yeaah
Worth it: Yes

Notable event: I gained a very cool friend
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Week: 1 Day: Wednesday

Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Indeedy
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Okay
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): Engaged in public speaking
Growth: yep
Worth it: Yeah
 
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I think this is a good idea, but we will never be able to help you because we don't know anything your up to.

And what's monkey spanking?
 
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apocolipto said:
I think this is a good idea, but we will never be able to help you because we don't know anything your up to.

And what's monkey spanking?
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Its wanking
Ah I see. What sort of things do you think I should disclose?
 
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Week: 1 Day: Thursday

Monkey Spankin: I did.
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Poor effort
Smooth Operations: Not happening
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: Nope
Worth it: Noooo
 
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Week: 1 Day: Friday

Monkey Spankin: I did. Despising myself at the moment.
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Awful
Smooth Operations: Zip (as you septics say)
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: Nope
Worth it: Noooo

Notable event: Called some womans hot daughter a sexual predator as part of a poorly received joke (it wasn't very funny either). Feeling an *sshole after that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Week: 1 Day: Saturday

Monkey Spankin: I didn't
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: Yep
Eating: bad
Work: decent
Smooth Operations: none
SO (no homo): Hung out with some new people
Growth: Nope
Worth it: I'll say yeah

Notable event: got ripped into by a comedian at a comedy club.
 
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This is an epic fail of a journal. It's systematically flawed with from the beginning; it does not encourage me to grow. Without setting of concrete goals it constitutes a **** up on my part. I am going to start a new one now; a personal one with accounts from most days. I will delete this if I can.
 
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What I said from the beginning. Stop being lazy and start a real journal so we can actually help you.

Also, your journal shouldn't really be "main" motivation. I don't even really think of my journal while busy, out, gaming, school, gym etc. But if I have a series of events or noteworthy news/ comment, I make a journal entry.

It's much better.

PS: Why are there no chicks in this journal? What's up?
 
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