"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Gripped by improvement.

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Thought maybe the "Gripped by..." has still got something left to it.
So here it goes- a journal for improvement in all aspects of my life.

I will make a check in post every day on the following:

Monkey Spankin: I will say yes or no.
Cardio Exercise: Again yay or nay
Weights: Still Boolean
MJ: Did I get high?
Eating: Healthy?
Work: Degree of academic effort.
Smooth Operations: How many girls did I work the old magic on?
SO (no homo): How many and which dudes did I bantz with?
Growth: Have I grown today?
Worth it: If I looked to this day on my deathbed, would I consider it a waste?

The criteria should stay constant unless I've missed anything key

On Sunday I'll summarize.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Week: 1 Day: Monday

Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Poor effort
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: marginal
Worth it: Could be

Notable event: Journal Started
 

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These daily checks can be helpful. It also suggests you don't really know what you're working on specifically (other than exercise). Are you going to try to cold approach? How will you see your own growth? What milestones will you achieve?
 

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LearningSlowly said:
These daily checks can be helpful. It also suggests you don't really know what you're working on specifically (other than exercise). Are you going to try to cold approach? How will you see your own growth? What milestones will you achieve?
Yeah I you are right; I will set some more specific goals
First specific goal- Set specific goals
 

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Week: 1 Day: Tuesday
Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Satisfied
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): Expanded a little
Growth: *Yeaah
Worth it: Yes

Notable event: I gained a very cool friend
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Week: 1 Day: Wednesday

Monkey Spankin: Negative
Cardio: Indeedy
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Okay
Smooth Operations: Absent
SO (no homo): Engaged in public speaking
Growth: yep
Worth it: Yeah
 

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I think this is a good idea, but we will never be able to help you because we don't know anything your up to.

And what's monkey spanking?
 

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apocolipto said:
I think this is a good idea, but we will never be able to help you because we don't know anything your up to.

And what's monkey spanking?
Its wanking
Ah I see. What sort of things do you think I should disclose?
 

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Week: 1 Day: Thursday

Monkey Spankin: I did.
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Poor effort
Smooth Operations: Not happening
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: Nope
Worth it: Noooo
 

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Week: 1 Day: Friday

Monkey Spankin: I did. Despising myself at the moment.
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: No
Eating: Average
Work: Awful
Smooth Operations: Zip (as you septics say)
SO (no homo): The usual crowd
Growth: Nope
Worth it: Noooo

Notable event: Called some womans hot daughter a sexual predator as part of a poorly received joke (it wasn't very funny either). Feeling an *sshole after that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Week: 1 Day: Saturday

Monkey Spankin: I didn't
Cardio: Nay
Weights: Nope
MJ: Yep
Eating: bad
Work: decent
Smooth Operations: none
SO (no homo): Hung out with some new people
Growth: Nope
Worth it: I'll say yeah

Notable event: got ripped into by a comedian at a comedy club.
 

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This is an epic fail of a journal. It's systematically flawed with from the beginning; it does not encourage me to grow. Without setting of concrete goals it constitutes a **** up on my part. I am going to start a new one now; a personal one with accounts from most days. I will delete this if I can.
 

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What I said from the beginning. Stop being lazy and start a real journal so we can actually help you.

Also, your journal shouldn't really be "main" motivation. I don't even really think of my journal while busy, out, gaming, school, gym etc. But if I have a series of events or noteworthy news/ comment, I make a journal entry.

It's much better.

PS: Why are there no chicks in this journal? What's up?
 
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