Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
kabatura said:why the change in reps on the decline?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Isn't that the correct way to do them ??Maybe you're doing it with your torso upright.
If its working for you, then keep doing your thing. I just think its alot more optimal to keep them as separate exercises.There's nothing 'horrible' about putting in dips instead of a third bench press mate
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No and it's also pointless to do decline dumbell press along with the others. I bet you don't do rows on 3 different angles for your back to balance it out either. Dips are a great chest and tricep builder, bar width and torso position help to shift the emphasis.Drum&Bass said:Isn't that the correct way to do them ??
I'm not a big fan of Leaning forward when doing dips, especially when you start incorporating weight. Why do you think its pointless to do decline presses along with others ?? what exactly are "others" ?Mad Manic said:No and it's also pointless to do decline dumbell press along with the others.
The back is not the same as a chest. Motion is different, mechanics are different Everything is different. You can very the angles of your arms and safely get different results for how your chest develops. You can't really alter to much with a back exercise without turning it into another exercise.Mad Manic said:I bet you don't do rows on 3 different angles for your back to balance it out either.
If your getting great results then stick with it, but for me personally Dips and inclines would not be enough to build a fuller looking chest.Mad Manic said:Dips are a great chest and tricep builder
I agree. Except, for me, it seems dips work out shoulders more than anything.Drum&Bass said:Thats funny...when I do dips I work my chest out MILDLY but my triceps take a majority of the punishment.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
your right my shoulders get real tight after doing them I think it might be the kinda bars I use. There not parallel but instead make a V shape. I think doing them with a closer grip causes you to squeeze the shoulders together when lowering yourself, so that might be what cause our shoulders to feel stressed.I agree. Except, for me, it seems dips work out shoulders more than anything.
I just think two presses are enough and Dips adds more variation and another plane of movement. As I said, people bang out the presses for chest but they aren't doing 3 types of rows to balance it out. If you're doing 3 types of rowing movements then so be it. I do Flat Barbell, Incline Dumbell and Wide Dips for Chest, low reps on flat, medium on incline, higher on wide dips.Drum&Bass said:I'm not a big fan of Leaning forward when doing dips, especially when you start incorporating weight. Why do you think its pointless to do decline presses along with others ?? what exactly are "others" ?
The back is not the same as a chest. Motion is different, mechanics are different Everything is different. You can very the angles of your arms and safely get different results for how your chest develops. You can't really alter to much with a back exercise without turning it into another exercise.
If your getting great results then stick with it, but for me personally Dips and inclines would not be enough to build a fuller looking chest.
look up proper benching technique. t-nation has a few good articles.Crazy Asian said:does decline hurt ur shoulder as bad as the flat bench does?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.