"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Great chest workout that has worked for me
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Drum&Bass
Master Don Juan
When I do declines, I work my triceps but NO where near the stress it puts on my chest.
Substituting Dips instead of Declines is a horrible idea. If your worried about a spotter use dumb bells.
Throw in some dumbbell flyes in there. It will make a world of difference.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No and it's also pointless to do decline dumbell press along with the others. I bet you don't do rows on 3 different angles for your back to balance it out either. Dips are a great chest and tricep builder, bar width and torso position help to shift the emphasis.Drum&Bass said:
MM
Drum&Bass
Master Don Juan
I'm not a big fan of Leaning forward when doing dips, especially when you start incorporating weight. Why do you think its pointless to do decline presses along with others ?? what exactly are "others" ?Mad Manic said:
The back is not the same as a chest. Motion is different, mechanics are different Everything is different. You can very the angles of your arms and safely get different results for how your chest develops. You can't really alter to much with a back exercise without turning it into another exercise.Mad Manic said:
If your getting great results then stick with it, but for me personally Dips and inclines would not be enough to build a fuller looking chest.Mad Manic said:
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I agree. Except, for me, it seems dips work out shoulders more than anything.Drum&Bass said:
I just started doing decline bench press. Dumbells seem to do nothing for me, however, using the bar makes the difference.
I guess what works for one man, may or may not, work for another man.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Drum&Bass
Master Don Juan
and he said wide dips while your tilting forward and maintaining a natural arch in your back works really well for lower part of the chest. I'm gonna give it a shot and see what happens.
your right my shoulders get real tight after doing them I think it might be the kinda bars I use. There not parallel but instead make a V shape. I think doing them with a closer grip causes you to squeeze the shoulders together when lowering yourself, so that might be what cause our shoulders to feel stressed.
I just think two presses are enough and Dips adds more variation and another plane of movement. As I said, people bang out the presses for chest but they aren't doing 3 types of rows to balance it out. If you're doing 3 types of rowing movements then so be it. I do Flat Barbell, Incline Dumbell and Wide Dips for Chest, low reps on flat, medium on incline, higher on wide dips.Drum&Bass said:
MM
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.