"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Great chest workout that has worked for me
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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When I do declines, I work my triceps but NO where near the stress it puts on my chest.
Substituting Dips instead of Declines is a horrible idea. If your worried about a spotter use dumb bells.
Throw in some dumbbell flyes in there. It will make a world of difference.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No and it's also pointless to do decline dumbell press along with the others. I bet you don't do rows on 3 different angles for your back to balance it out either. Dips are a great chest and tricep builder, bar width and torso position help to shift the emphasis.Drum&Bass said:
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Drum&Bass
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I'm not a big fan of Leaning forward when doing dips, especially when you start incorporating weight. Why do you think its pointless to do decline presses along with others ?? what exactly are "others" ?Mad Manic said:
The back is not the same as a chest. Motion is different, mechanics are different Everything is different. You can very the angles of your arms and safely get different results for how your chest develops. You can't really alter to much with a back exercise without turning it into another exercise.Mad Manic said:
If your getting great results then stick with it, but for me personally Dips and inclines would not be enough to build a fuller looking chest.Mad Manic said:
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I agree. Except, for me, it seems dips work out shoulders more than anything.Drum&Bass said:
I just started doing decline bench press. Dumbells seem to do nothing for me, however, using the bar makes the difference.
I guess what works for one man, may or may not, work for another man.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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and he said wide dips while your tilting forward and maintaining a natural arch in your back works really well for lower part of the chest. I'm gonna give it a shot and see what happens.
your right my shoulders get real tight after doing them I think it might be the kinda bars I use. There not parallel but instead make a V shape. I think doing them with a closer grip causes you to squeeze the shoulders together when lowering yourself, so that might be what cause our shoulders to feel stressed.
I just think two presses are enough and Dips adds more variation and another plane of movement. As I said, people bang out the presses for chest but they aren't doing 3 types of rows to balance it out. If you're doing 3 types of rowing movements then so be it. I do Flat Barbell, Incline Dumbell and Wide Dips for Chest, low reps on flat, medium on incline, higher on wide dips.Drum&Bass said:
MM
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.