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Grapes help change gene expression to prevent disease and prolong life

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Maybe I skimmed the article too quick, but what exactly are in grapes to give those benefits?
 

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Maybe I skimmed the article too quick, but what exactly are in grapes to give those benefits?
I know there is a compound called resveratrol that is found in wine which I assume would also be in grapes in smaller amounts that is indicated in heart health.

Grapes appear to contain compounds that greatly enhance the effectiveness of antioxidants internally...apparently much more than actually taking extra antioxidants via pills or capsules.
 

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I didn't see anything about white vs red grapes. I have noticed that white wine contains hardly any antioxidants, as compared to red wine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I didn't see anything about white vs red grapes. I have noticed that white wine contains hardly any antioxidants, as compared to red wine.
Seems like red grapes have higher levels of antioxidants which is not surprising as they are darker in color...other than that very few differences are present between the two.

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HiBack InTheGame,
Quite fascinating,helps explain the benefits of a Mediterranean Diet,could be the Resveratrol as you mention....please can anyone explain what"change gene expression"means...hard to believe drinking a few cups of Wine changes your DNA.
 

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Hi Bible Belt,
Not much Resveratrol in White Wine,but evidently beneficial to those with Lung problems.
 

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I know there is a compound called resveratrol that is found in wine which I assume would also be in grapes in smaller amounts that is indicated in heart health.

Grapes appear to contain compounds that greatly enhance the effectiveness of antioxidants internally...apparently much more than actually taking extra antioxidants via pills or capsules.
I've heard the exact opposite from David Sinclair, a researcher in longevity. He said the amount of resveratrol in foods is too small to acquire from diet.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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HiBack InTheGame,
Quite fascinating,helps explain the benefits of a Mediterranean Diet,could be the Resveratrol as you mention....please can anyone explain what"change gene expression"means...hard to believe drinking a few cups of Wine changes your DNA.
I think what they are getting at is the cell repairing itself with the right signals.


This theory seems right to me.
 

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HiBack InTheGame,
Quite fascinating,helps explain the benefits of a Mediterranean Diet,could be the Resveratrol as you mention....please can anyone explain what"change gene expression"means...hard to believe drinking a few cups of Wine changes your DNA.
It doesn't change your DNA, it affects which genes are expressed. Gene expression is regulated by your intake of nutrients, but can also be regulated by hormones or other internal/external factors.

Gene expression, aka reading of genes coded into the DNA, and production of the proteins/molecules/whatever that the gene encodes for, are what is being discussed here. It sounds like grapes cause anti-oxidant genes to express more, which wouldn't otherwise happen if you're eating a junk food diet.

It's probably more healthy overall to just not eat a junk food diet, which is what the Mediterranean diet is. And something else that deserves mention is just how much better the quality of food is in the Mediterranean area, which has a lot to do with ideal growing conditions, long growing seasons, and the fact that most houses have a significant amount of yard dedicated to growing their own food.
 

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HiBack InTheGame,
Quite fascinating,helps explain the benefits of a Mediterranean Diet,could be the Resveratrol as you mention....please can anyone explain what"change gene expression"means...hard to believe drinking a few cups of Wine changes your DNA.
Changing gene expression means that certain genes have on/off switches. Some things turn those on which leads to your health going in one direction and others turn them off which leads to your health going in the other direction
 

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To all the kind Folk who try and explain the gene Changing/selection phenomenum...Thanks,I will do some reading on this...I remember reading years ago that The Irish Potato Famine,explained the generally lower IQ levels of the Irish population compared with their neighbours.
 

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To all the kind Folk who try and explain the gene Changing/selection phenomenum...Thanks,I will do some reading on this...I remember reading years ago that The Irish Potato Famine,explained the generally lower IQ levels of the Irish population compared with their neighbours.
The smart ones tended to escape to America. This doesn't sound like something that would be passed on to offspring.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hi Kotaix,
As an Organic Gardener from School Days,I heartily agree with all your comments....Not just the nutritional value but the taste....Try an English Spring Potato...Nothing can tittilate the taste buds quite the same or so I thought until a few years ago I spent six weeks vegetating in Fethiye (Turkey) I was self catering and over the Road was a Fishermans and Farmers Market...Well the Vegetables and fruit on offer were amazing....and not just taste,Size!Beetroot that wouldn't fit in a saucepan,Tomatoes whose slices overlapped a round of bread..Later I had the opportunity of visiting a Farm...The answer is of course in the soil,Deep,black,sandy and full of humus...Labourers shovelling manure out of carts...That is part of the answer,lots of compost,activated by animal (Or Human) manures,minimal use of Chemicals.
 

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Hi Billie Pilgrim,
Don't forget that many went to Australia,there they miscegenated with the light fingered gentry who were Prisoners of Mother England...Not sure whose genes won out...Who knows?
 

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Hi Billie Pilgrim,
Don't forget that many went to Australia,there they miscegenated with the light fingered gentry who were Prisoners of Mother England...Not sure whose genes won out...Who knows?
I have no idea. You figure between the Irish and the English prisoners there would be a spirit of rebellion amongst the populace, but as we can see from the past few years that really hasn't been the case. Lol.
 
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