Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Alcohol is a big one. When I cut that out for around 6months, results moved exponentially faster.easy quick rules:
1. Only eat between sunrise and sunset
2. If you can eat small meals every 2.5 hours waking - no larger than your fist.
3. If 2 doesn’t work, prepare your plate of food then remove 25% of it.
4. Go Paleo/Keto meat and vegetables, only dressing on salad a homemade vinaigrette or lemon and salt and pepper.
5. No grains, nothing white in your diet.
6. Exercise to start 3x a week for no more than 45 minutes then add time and workouts as you progress.
7. Sleep 8 hours minimum
8. Stop alcohol
9. 15 minutes on a spin bike 150 HR SUSTAINED daily you’ll get there..takes time.
get a basic male hormone panel done.
That’s what I can think of for now
Yeah, don’t set out to do it quickly. 40 lbs is no joke.I can do this, just want to do it quicker. Any tips from the Chads here?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Carb cycling will give you all the benefits of keto with none of the drawbacks like loss of strength and flat muscles.Keto can speed this along... get your diet in check. Figure out your maintenance calories and drop that number down so you are at a defecit. Eat 1/g of protein per body weight daily. Avoid processed sugary carbs (think white bread). Drink water all damn day. (8-10 cups).
Testosterone can help too at your age but a proper diet and lifting routine is where you should start. Get your form right then start lifting heavy.
There is nothing inherently evil in and of itself, only when it is consumed in excess. That being said, sugar is something that can be very easy to consume large quantities of without even thinking just by eating a typical Western diet.Sugar is the mother of all evils. Read labels before you digest.
Then incorporate some of the good advice on here.
Carb cycling will give you all the benefits of keto with none of the drawbacks like loss of strength and flat muscles.
Highly recommend carb cycling over keto.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Actually the fastest way is via incorporating fasting and optimizing your hormones to burn fat. Could accomplish this in under 8 weeks easily.Dude wants to drop 40lbs ditching grains and carbs low is the fastest way. Without exogenous testosterone or analogs it took me a few years to do it and replace it with muscle.
200lbs@34%
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200lbs@10-12%
I replaced about 35+ lbs of fat with 35lb of muscle, again took a few years but I was post 35…
I’d love to see evidence of it. Losing weight too quickly can be hard on the body too. I think 5lbs a week is pushing it might be sustainable for a couple weeks but would slow exponentially 3rd week on.Actually the fastest way is via incorporating fasting and optimizing your hormones to burn fat. Could accomplish this in under 8 weeks easily.
I also think that it’s the easiest way to incorporate it into the lifestyle no matter what comes up as opposed to eating 5 to 6 meals a day.Actually the fastest way is via incorporating fasting and optimizing your hormones to burn fat. Could accomplish this in under 8 weeks easily.
Agreed, 40lbs in 8 weeks aint happening in any sort of healthy manner.I’d love to see evidence of it. Losing weight too quickly can be hard on the body too. I think 5lbs a week is pushing it might be sustainable for a couple weeks but would slow exponentially 3rd week on.
I did it personally every year for about 6 or 7 years where I would bulk up during the winter and then cut in the spring. Ended up perfecting it for myself and would routinely lose 25 lbs in 4 weeks, then it would take a few extra weeks to get the final 10 lbs.I’d love to see evidence of it. Losing weight too quickly can be hard on the body too. I think 5lbs a week is pushing it might be sustainable for a couple weeks but would slow exponentially 3rd week on.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I did it personally every year for about 6 or 7 years where I would bulk up during the winter and then cut in the spring. Ended up perfecting it for myself and would routinely lose 25 lbs in 4 weeks, then it would take a few extra weeks to get the final 10 lbs.
At that time no. Just TRT with my levels around 800.thank you for the detailed response. Were you on gear?
You've been brainwashed to believe this, but it simply isn't true.Agreed, 40lbs in 8 weeks aint happening in any sort of healthy manner.
Haven't been brainwashed by anything, I've lifted for 20 years. I'm 5'10 180 and 12% bf and lean. There is no way a 43 year old man without test is losing that weight and adding muscle with no prior gym training. Not to mention I'd say less than 1/10 guys who attempt this don't have the will or want to complete it.You've been brainwashed to believe this, but it simply isn't true.
Actually, surprisingly no prior gym training would be a benefit in this situation as his gains for the first 2-3 months would far surpass a person who trained regularly until they hit the wall where the body becomes accustomed to it.Haven't been brainwashed by anything, I've lifted for 20 years. I'm 5'10 180 and 12% bf and lean. There is no way a 43 year old man without test is losing that weight and adding muscle with no prior gym training. Not to mention I'd say less than 1/10 guys who attempt this don't have the will or want to complete it.
I think a combination of intermitent fasting, a massive diet change and heavy lifting with 200mg of test a week this might be possible.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.