TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Negative! ...how much does that rock?! 
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Got Results Back From Hiv/aids Test!!!!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
thats awesome.
that must of been stressful worrying about that
that must of been stressful worrying about that
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
You know, I decided to go for the test so I called last Friday, and they said that they didn't do blood work on Saturday, so all day Friday I was like "...damn." Cuz I wanted to really know, and my life is full of ironies.
Yesterday was very stressful!
I'm going to have my lab results framed. hehe!
Yesterday was very stressful!
I'm going to have my lab results framed. hehe!
MacAvoy
Banned
i could have told you they would have come back negative.
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
MacAvoy said:
lol! ..the man with all the answers!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Its important for academic purposes to realize HIV can be transmitted heterosexually. In practice, it makes about as much sense to worry about getting HIV this way as it does to fear crashing during an airline flight.Latinoman said:
HIV is probably one reason anal sex isn't a great idea. With a condom its probably relatively safe, but that takes a lot of the fun away.
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If i can change the subject slightly, my suggestion for developing DJs is to study the harmful effects of worrying excessively. I recommend the book by Dale Carnegie which addresses worrying needlessly. Worry less, live more.
No, not correct. Several studies put the risk for a man to contract HIV from an infected woman at 1:700 to 1:1000 when doing her without protection. But the possibility of an infection rises about 25-30 times if the infection of the carrier is fresh. So in this case the risk would be about 1:25 - 1:30.azanon said:
Both is WAY higher than the risk of dying in an airplane crash. Protected sex of course minimizes the risk, but it is still there. A broken condom, a fresh infection in your partner, and off you go.. Yes, the dangers of catching a HIV infection have been hyped massively for educational purposes. But don´t commit the mistake of going the other extreme and disregard the danger of infection. Which is not very likely, but nevertheless real.
Lets move from estimates to real numbers. I covered this in another recent similar thread.Rudra said:
(Sources, Census Bureau and CDC):
300 Million People in the US.
~1 Million have HIV/Aids. 15% of those caught it through heterosexual sex (so we're down to 150,000)
Thus, 0.05% of the population have HIV/Aids obtained through heterosexual sex. Or said another way, 1 in 2000 people have HIV/Aids caught this way.
Sure, that's more likely than a plane crash, but if you think I'm going to worry about it with these kinds of numbers, you are wrong. Chances are, the bulk of these people have a multitude of sexual partners that they're all having unprotected sex with, including anal. Its just way too likely that I'll be worrying needlessly, and there is plenty of documented proof that worry can be lethal, if not at least diminish your quality of life.
Worry (in its many forms) definitely kills more than 1 in 2000 people.
Let´s put it that way - you should definitely worry when you´re into promiscuous unprotected sex.azanon said:
When you´re into practising heterosexual safer sex, and do it properly, worrying about HIV is futile.
Agreed?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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If an otherwise clean man (i.e., no VD, not a drug addict, etc.) is having unprptected vaginal sex with a non-low class woman, his chances of catching the disease are extraordinarily low - as some have said, on the order of having your airplane ride crash. First, she must be a carrier, and then even if she is a carrier, the transmittal must be done.
The chances of such a non-low class woman having the disease is very low. You could tell if a woman is a druggie, or a street hore. Yes, a higher class woman may be an escort, but the chance of that is low, and she would be the high class kind who would only have high class clients, and would require them to use condoms in any case. Yes, a woman could have had a bi-sexual lover in her past, but in most cases, such a woman would be a bit strange. When it comes to ONS, you should just use a condom.
The chances of such a non-low class woman having the disease is very low. You could tell if a woman is a druggie, or a street hore. Yes, a higher class woman may be an escort, but the chance of that is low, and she would be the high class kind who would only have high class clients, and would require them to use condoms in any case. Yes, a woman could have had a bi-sexual lover in her past, but in most cases, such a woman would be a bit strange. When it comes to ONS, you should just use a condom.
That one should worry? absolutely. But not because of AIDS. I'd worry about 1. pregnancy 2. common STD's like herpes. That's the logical reason to use a condom if you're having non-anal sex with a chick. Now sure, if you're doing anal sex with anyone, I'd add HIV/AIDS as a viable concern to that list.Rudra said:
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For clarity, i'm certainly not advocating not using condoms. I'm just saying lets at least grasp what condoms are primarily protecting us from; which would be pregnancy and common, permanent genital STDs. And yes, I know condoms don't provide complete protection from either of those, but they help.
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
I'm feeln hella good, if only slightly hungover. Partied up last night with some very good friends.
When ppl say your life changes after you had a kid, they weren't bullsh*tting.
You drive with your seatbelt on, you do the speed limit, you eat right, you exercise, you cut down on the late night partying, etc... and when you did as much fvcking as I did last summer, you just want to be sure you are ok, and that you will be around for your son.
I don't expect everyone to understand this, and some of you rookies (and you know who you are. ) might question it, and that's fine too, I'm not mad at ya. /points and laughs!! LOL! Just get yourself educated.
I just want to be around for my son for as long as possible, God willing.
Whew! ...I feel hella good.
Partied up last night with some very good friends. When ppl say your life changes after you had a kid, they weren't bullsh*tting.
You drive with your seatbelt on, you do the speed limit, you eat right, you exercise, you cut down on the late night partying, etc... and when you did as much fvcking as I did last summer, you just want to be sure you are ok, and that you will be around for your son.
I don't expect everyone to understand this, and some of you rookies (and you know who you are.
) might question it, and that's fine too, I'm not mad at ya. /points and laughs!! LOL! Just get yourself educated. I just want to be around for my son for as long as possible, God willing.
Whew! ...I feel hella good.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.