"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Got Results Back From Hiv/aids Test!!!!

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You know, I decided to go for the test so I called last Friday, and they said that they didn't do blood work on Saturday, so all day Friday I was like "...damn." Cuz I wanted to really know, and my life is full of ironies.

Yesterday was very stressful!

I'm going to have my lab results framed. hehe!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I took a blood test for HIV/AIDS last week also and got my results on Sunday: Negative. It was very relieving even though I felt I was fine to see the results confirming it certainly felt good.
 

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If you don't have symptoms that are hampering your life and you need to get to the bottom of them, what's the point? Its not like you can "catch it early" and cure it.
 

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azanon said:
If you don't have symptoms that are hampering your life and you need to get to the bottom of them, what's the point? Its not like you can "catch it early" and cure it.

But you can spread it. And you can also contain it.
 

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straight men don't catch HIV from women
If you have a big cuck and she has a tight puzzy…blood will be shared. If you have anal sex too.

Don’t kid yourself…you can get HIV from heterosexual sex.
 

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Latinoman said:
But you can spread it. And you can also contain it.
Without the test, you spread it legally. With the test, you commit a felony.

To my knowledge, you cannot "contain" HIV/Aids. You can slow it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Latinoman said:
If you have a big cuck and she has a tight puzzy…blood will be shared. If you have anal sex too.

Don’t kid yourself…you can get HIV from heterosexual sex.
Its important for academic purposes to realize HIV can be transmitted heterosexually. In practice, it makes about as much sense to worry about getting HIV this way as it does to fear crashing during an airline flight.

HIV is probably one reason anal sex isn't a great idea. With a condom its probably relatively safe, but that takes a lot of the fun away.

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If i can change the subject slightly, my suggestion for developing DJs is to study the harmful effects of worrying excessively. I recommend the book by Dale Carnegie which addresses worrying needlessly. Worry less, live more.
 

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azanon said:
Its important for academic purposes to realize HIV can be transmitted heterosexually. In practice, it makes about as much sense to worry about getting HIV this way as it does to fear crashing during an airline flight.
No, not correct. Several studies put the risk for a man to contract HIV from an infected woman at 1:700 to 1:1000 when doing her without protection. But the possibility of an infection rises about 25-30 times if the infection of the carrier is fresh. So in this case the risk would be about 1:25 - 1:30.

Both is WAY higher than the risk of dying in an airplane crash. Protected sex of course minimizes the risk, but it is still there. A broken condom, a fresh infection in your partner, and off you go.. Yes, the dangers of catching a HIV infection have been hyped massively for educational purposes. But don´t commit the mistake of going the other extreme and disregard the danger of infection. Which is not very likely, but nevertheless real.
 

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Rudra said:
No, not correct. Several studies put the risk for a man to contract HIV from an infected woman at 1:700 to 1:1000 when doing her without protection. But the possibility of an infection rises about 25-30 times if the infection of the carrier is fresh. So in this case the risk would be about 1:25 - 1:30.
Lets move from estimates to real numbers. I covered this in another recent similar thread.

(Sources, Census Bureau and CDC):

300 Million People in the US.
~1 Million have HIV/Aids. 15% of those caught it through heterosexual sex (so we're down to 150,000)
Thus, 0.05% of the population have HIV/Aids obtained through heterosexual sex. Or said another way, 1 in 2000 people have HIV/Aids caught this way.

Sure, that's more likely than a plane crash, but if you think I'm going to worry about it with these kinds of numbers, you are wrong. Chances are, the bulk of these people have a multitude of sexual partners that they're all having unprotected sex with, including anal. Its just way too likely that I'll be worrying needlessly, and there is plenty of documented proof that worry can be lethal, if not at least diminish your quality of life.

Worry (in its many forms) definitely kills more than 1 in 2000 people.
 

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azanon said:
Worry (in its many forms) definitely kills more than 1 in 2000 people.
Let´s put it that way - you should definitely worry when you´re into promiscuous unprotected sex.

When you´re into practising heterosexual safer sex, and do it properly, worrying about HIV is futile.

Agreed?
 

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Negative! ...how much does that rock?! :up:

Dude, if this is what you get excited about, well.... you gots issues bro.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If an otherwise clean man (i.e., no VD, not a drug addict, etc.) is having unprptected vaginal sex with a non-low class woman, his chances of catching the disease are extraordinarily low - as some have said, on the order of having your airplane ride crash. First, she must be a carrier, and then even if she is a carrier, the transmittal must be done.

The chances of such a non-low class woman having the disease is very low. You could tell if a woman is a druggie, or a street hore. Yes, a higher class woman may be an escort, but the chance of that is low, and she would be the high class kind who would only have high class clients, and would require them to use condoms in any case. Yes, a woman could have had a bi-sexual lover in her past, but in most cases, such a woman would be a bit strange. When it comes to ONS, you should just use a condom.
 

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Rudra said:
Let´s put it that way - you should definitely worry when you´re into promiscuous unprotected sex.

When you´re into practising heterosexual safer sex, and do it properly, worrying about HIV is futile.

Agreed?
That one should worry? absolutely. But not because of AIDS. I'd worry about 1. pregnancy 2. common STD's like herpes. That's the logical reason to use a condom if you're having non-anal sex with a chick. Now sure, if you're doing anal sex with anyone, I'd add HIV/AIDS as a viable concern to that list.

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For clarity, i'm certainly not advocating not using condoms. I'm just saying lets at least grasp what condoms are primarily protecting us from; which would be pregnancy and common, permanent genital STDs. And yes, I know condoms don't provide complete protection from either of those, but they help.
 

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azanon said:
Without the test, you spread it legally. With the test, you commit a felony.

To my knowledge, you cannot "contain" HIV/Aids. You can slow it.
A DJ and for that matter a REAL Man would do the right thing. Spreading a virus to innocent people, including love ones is irresponsible.
 

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azanon said:
Its important for academic purposes to realize HIV can be transmitted heterosexually. In practice, it makes about as much sense to worry about getting HIV this way as it does to fear crashing during an airline flight.

HIV is probably one reason anal sex isn't a great idea. With a condom its probably relatively safe, but that takes a lot of the fun away.

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If i can change the subject slightly, my suggestion for developing DJs is to study the harmful effects of worrying excessively. I recommend the book by Dale Carnegie which addresses worrying needlessly. Worry less, live more.

It does not matter...it still can get transmitted.
 

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I'm feeln hella good, if only slightly hungover. :) Partied up last night with some very good friends.

When ppl say your life changes after you had a kid, they weren't bullsh*tting.

You drive with your seatbelt on, you do the speed limit, you eat right, you exercise, you cut down on the late night partying, etc... and when you did as much fvcking as I did last summer, you just want to be sure you are ok, and that you will be around for your son.

I don't expect everyone to understand this, and some of you rookies (and you know who you are. ;) ) might question it, and that's fine too, I'm not mad at ya. /points and laughs!! LOL! Just get yourself educated.

I just want to be around for my son for as long as possible, God willing.

Whew! ...I feel hella good. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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