"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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got number?

theNEWDJ

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I got a number from this girl i met at the mall but i only talked to her for about 50 seconds, so what do i say if i call her i hardly know here its like what now?

also if a girl says "you look familiar" or "you look like someone i know" is this a cue that they are interested?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hmm, well I'm calling this girl who's number I got a few days ago later this afternoon. I'll give you a transcript of what I said.

Plus if I make any mistakes i'll point those out.
 

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thanks i guess haha
 

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Originally posted by theNEWDJ
I got a number from this girl i met at the mall but i only talked to her for about 50 seconds, so what do i say if i call her i hardly know here its like what now?

also if a girl says "you look familiar" or "you look like someone i know" is this a cue that they are interested?
For your 1st scenario. Call up, and tell her exactly what you told us about chatting at her from the mall and that you wanna do something later with her.

For your 2nd scenario, Yeah this is a que of interest in my experience dependin on how they "recognize" you. I usually do that to people I'm interested in getting to know haha it gives me a kick.
 
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